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Mom Blogger Nails How the Pressure to Be Perfect Robs Us of Enjoying Time With Our Kids

Constance Hall's post about modern mothering is the perfect reminder of what's really important in life.

Every modern mom can relate to feeling like she's under too much pressure, whether you have one child or 11. Australian mom-of-four and blogger Constance Hall (whose grandmother actually had 11 children!) shares a powerful post about how important it is to stop and enjoy your children, instead of allowing that pressure to hijack your motherhood journey.

Hall's father's take on how mothering has changed through the years is eye-opening to say the least. She recalls her dad telling her about her nanna: "She didn't have to go to the bank, the supermarket everyday, she wasn't expected to look a million bucks straight after birth and she never put pressure on her kids to have reached all of their miles stones [sic] by the age of 3 weeks, have the house clean and own a thermomix."

Instead, she enjoyed her kids, plain and simple.

I can so relate to how Hall describes being a mother nowadays: "We are only half present for them all of the time due to the constant pressure to have everything perfect."

I hate how true that statement is. The reality is, that despite the pressure to be thin, cook organic meals for your family, dress them in the latest fashions, have your house looking picture-perfect at all times, and on and on, I so desperately want to tune out all that stuff, and tune in to my kids. Because I'd hate to look back and realize I was so busy trying to achieve perfection that I missed all the important stuff. I'd hate even more if my kids thought I wasn't truly engaged with them, because at the end of the day, nothing is more important.

Hall ends her post by writing, "I'm not going to let outside pressures and 'Super mum' ideals take [time with my kids] away from me."

Amen to that! Thanks for that reminder, which many of us over-pressured moms (me included!) really need.

Melissa Willets is a writer/blogger and a mom. Find her on Facebook where she chronicles her life momming under the influence. Of coffee.