Desi Lydic of "The Daily Show With Trevor Noah" recently poked fun at the ridiculousness of mom-shaming with her segment "Momsplaining." So if you've ever felt judged for a parenting choice, then this five-minute clip is a must-see.
Lydic begins the segment by saying the biggest surprise about being a new mom is how many people are going to tell you that you suck at it. Truth!
Then she sheds light on one of mom-shamers' favorite topics: breastfeeding. Indeed, how many times have you heard the mantra "breast is best"? Um, unless you're breastfeeding in public. "Then everyone wants you to put those tatas away!" Lydic cracks.
She offers her rules for surviving mom-shaming:
1. You can't prevent it. No matter who you are, even if you're Chrissy Teigen, judgment, many times from people you don't even know, is a fact of life when you're a mom. So don't fight it.
2. Never let your guard down. Lydic says just when you think you can trust someone—like your OBGYN!—is when they will lower the boom of judgment. So keep your defenses up!
3. It is not your fault. "It's your baby's fault!" Lydic says. We moms had a plan, and then the baby comes and messes it all up!
Her final words of advice: "You're doing fine no matter what people say. You got this!" Watch the full video to find out why she's fighting off a dragon while dispensing this wisdom.
But it's true; you can't win if you're a mom trying to please everyone. That's why you have to do it your way, and say to hell with your critics. Or, at least learn to laugh at how insane the whole concept of judging someone for how they parent their own kids is.
Melissa Willets is a writer/blogger and a mom. Follow her on Twitter (@Spitupnsuburbs), where she chronicles her love of exercising and drinking coffee, but never simultaneously.