Chrissy Teigen and Night Nurses: The Latest Mom-Shaming Battle
After it was reported soon-to-be celebrity parents Chrissy Teigen and John Legend plan to use a night nurse to help care for their baby, it's no surprise the model's Twitter account became fertile feeding ground for criticism from fans and well, not-fans.
"It doesn't make you look uncaring but you might feel like you're missing out on an important part of bonding," commented one user.
"Shame on @johnlegend and @chrissyteigen ! Night nurse! #parttimeparenting," said another.
Not one to take an attack lying down, Teigen also took to Twitter to defend her plans, saying, "A night nurse doesn't replace you waking and feeding at night. You're up with them. They're helpers and teachers." She later added, "I am so used to sharing our life that I forget how protective I will be soon. I cannot handle this kind of constant judgement [sic]!"
Well, welcome to the wonderful world of modern parenting, Chrissy. I hate to tell you, but everyone is judging all the time, even if you aren't famous. People who read my blog posts always have an opinion when it comes to how I parent. Some express those opinions with kindness and consideration, and others do the exact opposite, and can be outright vicious. I've been told I don't deserve to be a mother because I didn't breastfeed my daughter. Nice, right?
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My best advice is to ignore the haters, and do you. Because if you try to please everyone, you will drive yourself crazy. That, and perhaps self-edit a bit more with what you share if you don't want to hear the feedback. Or don't even read the comments! Sometimes I'll peruse comments to things I write, and once I see the person is going down a negative path, I quickly move on.
I've learned everyone feels very passionately about almost every aspect of raising children, so you just have to have thick skin if you're going to put yourself out there as a parent. I'm not surprised some people don't understand why Teigen would want to use a night nurse; it's something that does not appeal to me, probably because I'm a control freak, and it's an added expense we wouldn't want to pay for.
But if having a night nurse makes you feel more supported and confident as a new parent, then go for it! And tune out the naysayers.
Melissa Willets is a writer/blogger and a mom. Follow her on Twitter (@Spitupnsuburbs), where she chronicles her love of exercising and drinking coffee, but never simultaneously.