My son is 10, and he still wakes up about three or four times a week at 4 a.m.and comes into our room to sleep. I don't lie about the fact that he does this—but I don't go around advertising it, either.
I'm in good company, apparently: A poll of 600 UK parents found that 46 percent of them shared a bed with their newborn but don't admit it. Most likely they lie because they're scared of being judged, according to parenting expert Sarah Ockwell-Smith, author of the book Why Your Baby's Sleep Matters.
"Many people won't even tell their friends or family," she said. "It's a taboo."
It's important to note that health experts advise against co-sleeping for infants. The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends babies sleep in the same room as their parents but do not share a bed, as bed sharing remains the greatest risk factor for SIDS sleep-related infant deaths. And sleep safety charities like The Lullaby Trust work tirelessly to spread awareness of this fact.
Still, Ockwell-Smith says if parents insist on co-sleeping, they should be informed about how to do it correctly.
"I'm just really worried that by telling people not to do it, they're putting more babies at risk," she told The Daily Mail. "Surely it makes more sense for parents to know how to do it correctly."
Here's what you need know:
DON'T ever bedshare, experts advise, if:
Get more information on safe co-sleeping.