A: Begin by giving yourself a huge teaspoonful of praise. You have given your daughter two years of security by providing her with a warm nurturing nanny in the comfort and familiarity of her own home environment. You chose the optimal caregiving situation versus placing her in an outside daycare.
I absolutely understand your feelings. If the nanny is rivalrous or competitive with you, you may need to reconsider whether she is the best nanny for your family. Hopefully, your nanny respects and reinforces your position as “Mommy”.
Your goal is to enhance and deepen your bond with your two-year-old daughter. No need to detach your child from her nanny. It is helpful that she has this secondary attachment so that your little girl feels comfortable and secure when you are not there.
Try the following tips to increase your bond with your toddler.