A: It is very easy to get caught up in the power struggle of who is “right” that we often lose sight of what is most important. Consider whether it actually matters if she sleeps in her own room or with her grandparents. If she is getting the sleep that she needs, it may actually be fine. But if she is not getting the sleep that she needs, then you need to sit down with your in-laws and have a calm, open discussion about what everyone believes is best for your daughter. A compromise may be warranted, such as allowing your daughter to sleep with her grandparents as a special weekend activity instead of on school nights.