Handling Aggressive Behavior
Learn how to punish your child for aggressive behavior, such as biting or hitting, and whether his punishment should be adjusted as he gets older.
[MUSIC] If you see your child hurting another child, you need to step in immediately. Safety first. Get in between the kids and say stop. You wanna comfort the injured child, before you deal with the hurting child. Because you don't want hurting to be the best way to get your attention. But then you definitely wanna turn to the other child and say, no hitting, hitting hurts. So you're helping them to understand, how the other child feels. If the child is over three, this would be a good time for a short time out, to calm down. [MUSIC] The younger the child. The more you're going to have to intervene physically to stop or prevent her from hurting her friends. With older children, you can start to help them think about avoiding situations where they might have hit in the past. You can help them recognize, the situations that tend to trigger aggression. You can help them be aware of their own feelings. Often just acknowledging a child's feelings when they're starting to feel angry or frustrated, can help them to calm down, so they don't resort to aggression. You can also help them to learn other ways of dealing with frustrating situations. So they may wanna know some phrases about saying, I'd like a turn too, or I was using that first. If your child's aggressive behavior continues to be a problem, especially if it's continuing through preschool, then you may wanna consult a mental health professional, for some ideas on how to help. [MUSIC]