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Attachment Parenting

Wed, 22 Aug 2012|

-Hi, everybody, I'm Juli Auclair. When you become a parent, one of the many decisions you make is how to raise your child. Well, attachment parenting is a child-rearing philosophy that some people are following these days. Dr. Erika Schwartz tells us the guidelines of attachment parenting and we talk to a mom who follows the philosophy with her children. -Hi, I'm Dr. Erika and, today, we're going to be talking about attachment parenting. What does it mean to you as a parent? what does it mean to your children? and what you need to know to be best at it? Attachment parenting is a philosophy that helps connect the mother to the child and it enhances love and affection and attachment between the mother and the child. From this form of parenting, the children become better children, better adults, but more importantly, the parents have a commitment to the child, which really translates in better parenting. So attachment parenting follows set of principles called the 7 baby B's. They involved birth bonding, breastfeeding, baby wearing, bedding close to baby, belief in the language value of your babies cry, beware of baby trainers, and balance. What comes naturally is to love your child, to breastfed your child, to keep the child close to you, and to enjoy the child's presence to commit to the child. So, I think bonding with the child is normal. As we talk about the 7 baby B's, we to attach to the principles, but at the end of the day, it's about the mother and the baby and bonding between the mother and the baby. So, here these 8 principles: Prepare for pregnancy birth and parenting, feed with love and respect, respond with sensitivity, use nurturing touch, engage in nighttime parenting, provide consistent and loving care, practice positive discipline, strive for balance in your personal and family life. That was just too much not paying attention to the individual and the sympathic [unk] between the parent and the child, and the child is an individual, the parent is an individual, so rules won't apply. So, you can't use rules all the time. You have to use what works. -Cultures kind of toxic for parents and families. As you see, there's not nearly enough support for the hard work the parents have to do. Like for example, parents are asked, mothers in particular asked to make really hard choices about their income, their carrier interest, and their children. These are significant choices for us to make at a very critical time in the lives of our children, and they are rapidly developing and they are intensely dependent on the adult caregivers in their lives. -To me, attachment parenting is really about any parenting or caregiving that emphasizes a very close physical and emotional availability that's consistent and parenting and caregiving that's sensitively responsive to the children. So, I followed along those facts and realized that not parenting using attachment parenting philosophy is actually kind of risky because I have a singular opportunity in the early development of the children to lend towards their brain architecture and firmly establish stress reduction systems and brain chemicals that are very positive to their development well-being and missing out on that opportunity was a great risk to me personally, so I thought, well it's obvious. Let's go this way. Attachment parenting international is for me a one-stop shopping when it comes to this type of parenting. It's objection information about parenting for the benefits and optimal health and development of children. It tells you how you can most likely succeed in creating a secure attachment with your child. Create by using warm and caring and healthy relationships between the parents and caregivers and the children. Not just about parents either. It's about all caregivers involved with the care of children. -Attachment parenting has many positive benefits when it comes to raising your children and it can adapt the philosophy to fit your personal lifestyle and child rearing needs. Thanks for watching Parents TV. We'll see you again next time.