Discipline Lessons That Last

unless u beat him and then pet him thereafter.i really want to stop, but hes really making it difficult for me. please advice me, what do u think i should be doing instead of spanking him. because he really won't yield no matter what i do unless i spank and then pet. pleeeeeeease advice.

ZZFAMILY1 is rigth, when u spank a child often, the child ends up beating younger children that are not doing what he want them to do. mine is an example, i easily loose it and spank my 2yr o.ld boy alot, now he in turn has started spanking his baby sister when ever shes not doing what he wants. i really feel sorry when i beat him, but hes so sturbbon, and he wouldn't do anything he doesn't feel like doing, like taking his syrup,bathing, wearing the clothe u want him to wear or even eating

taking over my wife's cpu as I went to login to my email...interesting thoughts. However when I was growing up discpline was quick and painful. The message I received, "Keep doing these naughty things and this is what you will get...a spanking." Behave and good times and things come your way was the message my parents sent me. I must be a rare breed as I learned very quickly and early what actions brought what consequences...I agree with e..dragon...don't over do it or orver use it!

As for discipline - it is monkey see monkey do -- what we do they see and they will do....it is my opinion that we must lead by example. If you want your child to be respectful then you must teach them respect by being respectful. Don't we all have a some habit we picked up from our parents that we don't necessarily love which was learned by example?

Teaching your child is an ongoing skill. Teaching a 7 month old not to pull hair or your glasses is pretty simple. It is more difficult to teach your 3 yr old not to throw a block at his sister when he is mad. And if you spank, your child WILL hit people too. We have to model the behavior we want to teach and because none of us is perfect - our children will not be either. All we can do is our best at any moment in time.

Please tell me why a 5 year old "should be familiar with a computer" they should be playing on the floor, learning new games -- we as a society are addicted to TV, electronics and other activities that are not physically active. It is in my opinion that electronics are not an appropriate babysitter.

I think you need to teach kids early, about what is right and wrong. My 7 month old already knows that she will get in trouble if she pulls my hair. Therefore she doesnt pull hair intentionaly. She may do it on an accident like when she gets excited, but she knows when i say "no" in a serious voice that she needs to let go.

My 3 yr old is out of control at home. I am told she is a complete angel at school. Attends school 2 days a week/Daycare 3 days a week. My husband and I have tried time outs, spanking, and verbal talks. Nothing works. She understands because she tells me but she will look me in the eye and say "you don't say that to me" or hit me and say "I spanked you." When told only adults discipline, she says "I am an addadult!" Cute as it was, I could not let her see me laughing inside.

A 5 year old is of kindergarten age and should be familiar with the computer. I would wonder why a 5 uear old was NOT wanting to play games on the computer. Spanking for every bad deed would resilt in a resentful child

It is imporatant to understand that some children require a lot of daily vigorous exercise. Without it they are so wound up that it is extremely difficult for them to control their actions. Spanking is not recommended because it causes children to act out of fear, does not encourage them to develop a conscience and may even cause more agression in children.

There's nothing wrong with letting a 5yo play on the computer -- supervised, of course. And, you're right, there's nothing wrong with a spanking, either, as long as you don't overdo it or overuse it!

Okay, first of all who lets their 5 year old child play on the computer? Second, what happened to giving your kid a good spanking? You can spank your child, it's not abuse! This 5 year old in this article seems like a hellion and he showed out plenty in just one day. Spank him, then give him a time out. Let him sit there and think about what he's done and when he's ready to apologize then you two can talk about it.