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Are You Overdoing It on Discipline?
Argh! Your kid made a huge mess in the kitchen trying to make her own breakfast (again). Or maybe she's playing bedtime ping-pong for the umpteenth time this week -- running to you every five minutes for a glass of water, another story, more cuddle time. These behaviors are frustrating, and maybe, you think, a time-out or a stern talking-to will solve the problem.
Here's a thought: What you see as bad behavior is often completely reasonable depending on a child's developmental stage. "Many parents are too quick to discipline when what children really need is understanding and encouragement," says Parents advisor Michele Borba, EdD, author of 12 Simple Secrets Real Moms Know. "They're young, they're clumsy, and they don't know how to do everything yet. It's your job to teach them." We outline four scenarios in which discipline is not the answer, and tell you how to handle them effectively while keeping your cool.
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Hillschool, I am not opposed to spanking as a last resort, but I have 5 kids and I know from experience that it is certainly not the answer to everything. It's amazing when you do take the time and patience to listen to your children and try to understand them and what they are trying to express to you through their actions, so much more can be accomplished. Spanking as a cure-all approach will only teach your child to stuff feelings and that hitting is the only answer to frustration.
4/25/2010 04:36:07 PM Report AbuseI had this problem with my oldest daughter, but this method worked for me. Start w/ shower and storytime (patience is key here ) I love to read, and am trying to get her on the bandwagon, so that's about 30 minutes. The best part is I when I say goodnight and that I'll check on her after I put on my pjs.. If she's still awake I repeat, but with me goping to do a new task to get ready for bed/ morning. Works great!
4/3/2010 02:03:38 AM Report Abusefail... they don't spank em like they used to.
1/25/2010 06:25:20 PM Report Abuse