Spanking: Which Side of the Fence Are You On?

I use timeouts and loss of privaleges most of the time. When I decide to spank I use my hand on her bare leg. Less than once every 3 mo. I remind her what behavior will cause Her to get a spanking. People are afraid their childern won't love them if they spank. NOT SO. I lived my Mother and she loved me! As a teen the only thing that kept me out of trouble was what I my mother would do. There is a much larger percentage of juvenile delinquents than ever before.

i believe there is nothing wrong with spanking. but there is a fine line between spanking and beating your children. i'm a mother of 10 kids ( ages 16 years-1 month old) and i've spanked my kids when they need it. we have a set rule for spanking like what we use to spank them with and how many spanks they get ( never more than 5) and when spanking works. i've found with my kids that spanking is very useful and that sometimes it;s what they need, and want.

When I was previously married we each had our own child prior to our marriage. I was a spanker he was was a talker. My child graduated high school and is currently in college. His graduated rehab.

I see children being spanked from ages of a few months to 18 yr. olds. I feel so embarrassed for the spanker as well as the child and I have gotten into many arguments with the spankers when I confront them. Please keep your articles against spanking pouring in.

Spanking is corrective, it gets the child's attention and they remember the discomfort as a consequence. A light smart is much less uncomfortable than an electric shock or burn. Children don't often know or care why they are being told to stop and spanking is fine until they are old enough to understand. When they get older, it becomes a form of punishment and if you child acts out despite time-outs etc then as the old folks say, "Who don't hear, will feel."

I try not to spank but sometimes it depends on how severely they do something that is wrong and if timeouts or anything else is even working at that time. It depends on where you spank and how hard and how often you do it that it could possibly become a problem and not be right to do in my opinion. The kids who are becoming more aggressive as they get older or mental health problems or anything else the parents must be doing something else wrong.

Did anyone actually read the article, or are we just to caught up in our own lives and experiences we can't even listen to good sense? Seriously people...

i agree on spanking or poping every once in while but not everyday , some parents spank their children so much that when someone is going to touch them then they flench ,my son is 6 months nd in abot 3 months he will get a pop for things that he does ,all in all i dont feel thst there is anything wrong with it as long as your just not outright beating your children

amy.tassos i do they same thing you do if i have to spank my kids i always make sure they understand why i did it and always hug them and say i love you and they hug me and say it back and appoligize for what they did.

spanking is a rare thing in our house usually we ground the kids put them in time out or take away somthing they enjoy they learn their lesson from that.our children are not scared of us and come to us for everything because they know we love them and if we didnt we wouldnt care enough to correct them when they do somthing wrong i dont like to spank them but when needed its a option we let our 10 year old choose his punishment by picking it out of a bowl of punishments we made

Spanking is not as bad as people believe it is.. What is worse Spanking or sending ur child on a Guilt trip? in my experience my mom would make me feel guilty bout things that is what was worse for me... I was only afraid of mom or dad when I KNEW i did something wrong because I KNEW what was going to happen.. All that spanking did to me was teach me to THINK be4 i did something I Still knew mom and dad love me and wanted me to be safe no matter spanken or not ...

We spank our 2 1/2 year old treasure and it does work. I NEVER spank her out of anger or impatience. I am always very clear with her that if she disobeys or does not listen she will get a spanking. If she continues in disobedience I spank her on the thigh, just below her diaper. I only spank her hard enough for her to feel a sting (not very hard). I rarely have to resort to spanking her now. When I say, "You need to obey." she does. I also make sure to hug her and tell her I love her afterwards.

I belive SPANKING (not beating) works! I use it as a last resort. Sometimes (and with SOME kids) timeouts work and thats great.... however, sometimes a slap on the bottom is needed! My nephew used to laugh at my sister in law when she told him to go to the corner.... he would tell her what she wanted to hear (ie "yes mommy i know what i did was wrong ill never do it again" etc.) and then go do it again! Spanking is ok when done correctly.

i feel sorry for the parents who say that spanking works. really? does it? or do you just resort to instilling fear in your child? those that aren't willing to take the time, patience, and work to explain things to their child instead of hitting them or punishing them for things they might not even realize are bad, should not be parents. i'm sure that when the child grows up and becomes violent, that the parents don't like it. i'm sure the child didn't like being hurt either. irony.

There is a correlation between this country going away from spanking it's children and the problems of our youth today! You did not see this type of behavior & lack of discipline in the past generations. I understand this is a simplistic view...but it sums things up very quickly.

My mother has (13) bothers and sisters. Each of them have generally had 2-3 children. when we meet every year for our annual family reunion it is a large group. I would say that 80% of the siblings of my mothers brothers and sisters have college degrees and can be described as being successful. The common denominator with all of us...we were all raised being spanked. It's amazing, but you can pretty much look at the kids that are not successful and generally...their parents decided not to spank?

I am still on the fence about spanking. On one hand it was what I was taught you were supposed to do when your child was bad but in my experience spankings felt more like abuse. My sibs and I would have to hold on to things and sometimes get hit until our parents hands were tired. I ended having lil to no respect for my parents and if I had a problem or something I needed help with I went to someone else.

My mother loved my brother and I a lot, and believed it was her duty as a Christian to beat the fear of God into my brother and I. We are both atheists now and strongly against spanking. Our lives have been very rocky, but we are both finally getting on track. I had a child at a young age, we have both left a bad marriage before we were 25, my brother is a recovering drug addict, and we both dropped out of college for several years before going back.

In 26 countries, child corporal punishment is prohibited by law (with more in process). In fact, the US was the only UN member that did not ratify the Convention on the Rights of the Child.

Most compelling of all reasons to abandon this worst of all bad habits is the fact that buttock-battering can be unintentional sexual abuse for some children. There is an abundance of educational resources, testimony, documentation, etc available on the subject that can easily be found by doing a little research with the recommended reads-visit www.nospank.net.

Child buttock-battering vs. DISCIPLINE: Child buttock-battering for the purpose of gaining compliance is nothing more than an inherited bad habit. Its a good idea for people to take a look at what they are doing, and learn how to DISCIPLINE instead of hit. Here are some good, quick reads recommended by professionals: Plain Talk About Spanking by Jordan Riak, The Sexual Dangers of Spanking Children by Tom Johnson, NO VITAL ORGANS THERE, So They Say by Lesli Taylor M.D. and Adah Maurer Ph.D.

I think it really depends on the child what u should do as long as he or she gets the picture that they are doing wrong thats all that matters.Some kids respond better to timeout and others to spanking.Kids are hard these days I dont remember even thinking about doing the stuff these days kids are doing today lol

rocknum1fan, do you really think that being spanked or not is really the reason that you and your sister lead different lives? I would think that it would be something beyond that.

I can remember being spanked as a child when I did not follow the rules or did something that put my life or safety in jeopardy. Trust me I would think twice about making the same mistake again. The problem with today's society is we want to be our children's friend instead of their parent. You can love your child and spank them for wrong doing. Notice I said spank and not abuse there is a HUGE difference. Children must learn that life is full of consequences.

I only remember 2 spankings growing up(BTW I am still on my 1st marriage, and have not given in to the bottle just yet) My husband grew up in a spanking home, I did not. He remembers several beatings as a result of mom or dad being in a bad mood. We made the decision that spanking would always be the last resort. We NEVER HIT WHEN WE ARE ANGRY and we NEVER HIT BECAUSE WE ARE ANGRY. The todder gets timeout & the older kids loose privaleges like TV, ipod, going out, computer etc.

My sister got two spankings in her life. I got one almost every day. Today at 40 something we both have different lives. I have a wonderful family, husband, daughter, grandson. A great marriage of 24 years. Just great. My sister on her second terrible marriage, 4 children, and dead end job- she's an alcoholic. This is the case more often then not.

This is such a crock. I always knew why my hand or butt were slapped, why my grandmother washed my mouth out w/Ivory soap when I swore. I knew, always knew she loved and adored me, but I knew what were the consequences when I behaved and misbehaved. If I followed house rules, I wouldn't get the Ivory or swat on the behind. If I didn't follow them, I knew there were consequences. Needless to say, I followed house rules more often than not!