The Spanking Debate

It is foolish for any parent to completely rule out spanking.Every parent knows that children have different personalities,so while one child may not need to be spanked to behave,another may only respond to spanking.If you have completely ruled out spanking for a child who really needs it,aren't you failing that child?

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I do believe in spanking..but with a wooden spoon. If you spank with your hands you are confusing the child because the hands are what god gave us to love and caress our children..so i truly believe using a wooden spoon to spank right on the bottom where the butt muscles are is perfect..and make sure their clothes are on...that is honestlyl what I know is best. I wish my parents spanked my sister more because she was very rebious..

I agree with spankings, people like me back in the day actually had respect and morals and guess what we got spanked!! You look at kids now days and over half of them are spoiled brats because their parents are anti-spanking. I refuse to let my two kids grow up without knowing what a spanking is. My kids will not be spoiled brats. Kids now days can get away with murder.

I only spank my kids when all priviledges have been taken away and time-out is not an option. I don't think it is ever ok to BEAT your child but I do agree with a lot of mothers when it's said that "just a pop on the butt or a tap on the hand does the trick". A lot of what parents are doing is following their religious documents whether it be a bible, quaran, buddha, or shiv, we all have a culture that brings our parenting styles to question with each other.

Spanking makes you a brute and isn't effective. Talk to your child and help them understand. I have three kids (16, 11 and 20m) and none have EVER been spanked and people comment on how well behaved they are.

Now as parent we try to find that medium when raising our three children. All parents should instill respect and fear of consequences into their children and time out, redirection and simple explanations do not always do the trick. It is when a smiple swat or pop on the butt or hand is misinterpreted for overly angered and aggressive parents who whip and beat their children. You call it "corporal punishment" I call it good parenting.

Spanking your child does not make you a criminal. Its all a matter of opinion and preference. My mother did not discipline my sisters or myself at all, thankfully i was always well behaved; however in turn my sisters were openly disrespectful towards my mother, even hit her (and still act the same to this day). My husbands mother may have taken discipline to the extreme at times and that too turned out no good as he was also openly defiant.

Any person who raises a hand is a criminal. PERIOD. Growing up in a loving home meant that I always felt safe. Clearly spanking is wrong because it is physical abuse and humiliation. I remember once at a private school a teacher told me he was going to paddle me for speaking out. When he went to grab me after I refused to comply, I turned around and knocked 6 of his teeth out. I got kicked out of the school but boy did that feel great, and my parents were glad I stuck up for myself.

Spanking is controversial in the parenting world and I think that we all need to remember not to be so judgmental of each other and our parenting styles. Most of us are making decisions based on culture and home life, so to each his own. Which ever we choose, the most important rule to remember is to be consistent.

I am very torn on this subject. I recently stopped spanking as I felt I couldn't expect my son to be less agressive if I was using corpral punishment however his attitude towards me has only gotten worse. He doesn't take me seriously at all when I try reasoning with him, time out, taking away priveleges etc. He is more disrespectful than ever, so he got a spanking yesterday, but guess who was the sweetest little 5 year old on the block today? Go figure!

My husband and I believe in spanking. We were spanked, and although there are ways in which we will change some of the ways spanking looks like in our house, we do not believe it promotes violence. Violence is rooted in greed, anger, hatred, and sometimes a power trip. Spanking is a physical consequence to an action. It isn't the only method by any means, but it does inflict a minimal amount of pain to cause the child to associate the pain with the action, in hopes of deterring the behavior.

Dr James Dobson says not to spank a child under the age of 3. I have 3 year old twins, and have spanked them when they are openly defiant. A quick swat on the behind usually does the trick. Although, I don't think you should spank a child when you are angry or on the verge of losing it, as then the punishment will take on another form. I also use 'time out' for lesser 'offenses' and it does the trick.

I can not get my 5 year old to go to bed at night. I try to keep to the same routine every night. She will not mind me. I sometimes just pop her on her bottom. I just do not know what else to do. She brushes her teeth. She has a glass of warm milk. I read a book. She still will not mind and go to bed. What do I do????

I believe in spanking if necessary, Why not? In my country people said; better spanking when necessary than have to remedy. I believe in talk and in punishment but sometimes they need something more. Not a routine but they need to learn every act has a result; as bad as the act is as bad as the result will be, thats life rules.

I believe in spanking my kids, I look at it simply like this, when they grow up, the judge is not going to tell them they did something wrong and put them in the corner, there is going to be consequences, (God forbid they grow up to do anything to require a judge, but this is for instance). There are too many kids today that don't get punished when needed, and have little to no respect for anyone or anything. I agree with spare the rod, spoil the child, but I don't beat my kids, I punish them.

The Taylors use time outs and logical consequences when their kids misbehave. For instance AFTER THEIR SON DELIBERATELY BROKE A CHAIR he had to use his allowance to replace it. ARE YOU KIDDING ME! What happens when this kid grows up and deliberately breaks someones jaw? Will he use his allowance to replace that? if ur kids goin around breakin chairs, its time to spank that lil guy. a tap or two with a stern look from mom or dad will let him know you dissapprove and mean business.

I do believe in spanking children if necessary. Spanking is discipline. In our society today people make excuses for everything. I was spanked as a child and I didnt develop permanent mental damage from it. Im married with three children and have a bachelors degree. I love and respect my parents. I think if people would stop making excuses for their childrens behavior our world would be a different place today.....Spare the rod, spoil the child??????? i in

Child buttock-battering vs. DISCIPLINE: Child buttock-battering for the purpose of gaining compliance is nothing more than an inherited bad habit. Its a good idea for people to take a look at what they are doing, and learn how to DISCIPLINE instead of hit. Here are some good, quick reads recommended by professionals: Plain Talk About Spanking by Jordan Riak, The Sexual Dangers of Spanking Children by Tom Johnson, NO VITAL ORGANS THERE, So They Say by Lesli Taylor M.D. and Adah Maurer Ph.D.

Most compelling of all reasons to abandon this worst of all bad habits is the fact that buttock-battering can be unintentional sexual abuse for some children. There is an abundance of educational resources, testimony, documentation, etc available on the subject that can easily be found by doing a little research with the recommended reads-visit www.nospank.net.

In 26 countries, child corporal punishment is prohibited by law (with more in process). In fact, the US was the only UN member that did not ratify the Convention on the Rights of the Child.

I believe in spanking children when it is necessary. If my son takes something from another child, I will make him give it back and explain why he can't just take someone's belongings without asking. On the other hand if he is trying to stick something in the power outlet, I'm going to spank him and let him know that is very dangerous. I would rather him feel a little bit of pain from a spanking than electrocute himself.

i honestly due agree with spaning children. unlike my child hood i was beaten everyday because my parents had nothing else better to do... i guess.... but in the end i graduated high school 3 years ago and now i have a wonderful husband and we are expecting.

If my 2 year old son is kicking and misbehaving when I am trying to change his diaper, a little swat to his butt gets his attention and calms him down. I feel he knows I mean business and it's better than me screaming at him- that gets me nowhere.

spanking is essential in certain situations. Of course good parents would rather not spank. No one wants to spank. The fact of the matter is, if more children were appropriately spanked there would not be the userping of parental authority leading to the same with teachers and then the law enforcement community. If a child is running toward the road, you grab them and spank them so they will know from that moment on you are serious on the subject. It will save their life in the long run.

Growing up my parents used spankings. We would get fair warning before hand and if we didnt do what we were told we got a swat to the bottom. I believe that spanking is a very acceptable form of punishment. I don't agree with those who just do it to beat their kids at all.I dont think spanking shows violence as much as it shows the need for respect, which a lot of kids in todays generations lack.