Q+A: How Can I Get My Toddler to Play Alone?

Q. How can I get my 15-month-old to play by herself for more than five minutes? I set her up with a toy, and she calls me back soon after I walk away.

A. Your daughter's behavior is typical, even expected, for a toddler. You are her favorite toy, so if you're around, playing by herself doesn't seem like an attractive option. In fact, independent play probably won't happen consistently until she's closer to 2. But you can help her learn to entertain herself.

Start by creating opportunities for her to play nearby but not directly with you. Give her a basket of fun toys to explore while you sit close to her and work on a different task, such as folding clothes or reading a book. Talk with her now and again as you work, and describe what she's doing and discovering. Also, look for activities throughout the day that allow you to encourage independent play. As you make dinner, give your daughter a wooden spoon and some empty pots and pans. Work alongside her, chatting about what she's "cooking" for your family meal. And remember that it's important to balance independent play with special time together. Playing with a loved adult is the most important way a young child learns new ideas, practices language, and develops social skills.

Originally published in the September 2008 issue of American Baby magazine.