Your Kid, Only Less Whiny

I need help because my daughter cries so loudly in church when she wants to play a game on my phone. I guess I will leave the phone in the car from now on. I don't hit my child and time out seems to b ineffective when I try to use it. Help!!

I have one child if she starts a fit, i just tell her i dont like how she is acting and thats not how you get what you want. The first time I noticed she was picking up habbits from other children (fits, or personalities) I didnt like, I told her I dont like how that child was acting and I dont want her to act like that. I make it seem like something is wrong with that child. She is very stubborn so ignoring it doesnt work for me. I have to have a big girl talk. That works for me....

I have 1 child. He is 2 years old and many times acknowledging that he is upset works. He just wants to know that you know how he feels. A little comfort doen't hurt either. Although, sometimes he just wants to fuss and we just have to let him get it out of his system. Sometimes it seams like he never stops crying, but as long as I don't give in, he will eventually realize that the crying is not working and go back to his toys or he'll cry himself to sleep.

I would like to know what others say if there is 1 child that said It is not fair.?

ignore glares.set up clear expectations with rewards and consequences.be consitant and follow through. ignore tantrum and dont give him what hes screaming for.E in SC

To answser the may I PLEASE... [fill in the completely outrageous request] I say, you be the mommie.... a mommy's job is to keep her son safe and healthy... Would a mommie let her son [ ]. Why not? Saves hearing the BUT WHYS...

Another Note: Police are there to help people. Tell your child to look for a police officer if they get separated from Mommy. A child should never be threated with a "police scare." Try explaining that laws are rules to keep people safe and police help people to follow the laws.

I used to leave the store, a party, etc., when my children started acting up. Then I figured out that I was the one being punished! Children are smart. They soon figure out that if they don't want to be someplace, start whining and they'll be removed from the situation. Put your child in a time out where ever you are. THAT will embarrass them. Who wants to sit on a bench at Walmart with people staring at them? Who wants to sit on the steps at a birthday party? Not my kids.

ks55116 it does not say the police will take his mommy away. It says "the police will get mad at me" If anything this message is saying you should respect the police.

My son is only 2 1/2 he throws tantrums in the stores for something he wants.It is not always a toy or candy. Sometimes it is that he just wants down.Allot of people stare at us with not so nice looks on there face but I try to ignore them and address my child. It sucks sometimes because nothing I say or do matters. But if I leave the store then I feel he is getting what he wants in a way. But if I stay he screams and fights me the whole time. Bribary doesn't work either. H E L P............

The police should not be painted as a monster who takes their mommy away. They are our helpers who we go to when we are in a bad situation.

Understand about bad back. Had six - last one at 40. How 51, have severe arthritis for years. Indulged first few-have gotten stricter over time. Only have the 2 now-they don't get away with much. Re: potty training, get tough. She's plenty old enough. Tell her she HAS to go on the potty. DO NOT use pullups except at night. Go shopping-have her pick out panties. Set a timer for every 2 hours to sit on the pot for 10 minutes. Create reward chart give sticker for going. GOOD LUCK!

For diane_clagg IT SOUNDS LIKE YOU NEED some you time! and you daughter need some kid time:) Get her into a program where she spends time with kids her own age and where you get to either go home take a nap in the car chat it up with friends. And you will be happier it will also mellow out her Hot Messatude lol my kid was/is the same and she benefits being around kids and a rested relaxed or up to date gossip having mama

These comments are wonderful. BUT I am a work at home 48 yr old mom w/ a bad back and a 3.75 yr old daughter who runs right over us. Sometimes I can't believe I took a demotion and a huge paycut to be home with her. I don't mean to sound like a horrible mom I love her to pieces but she is a HOT MESS. She is still not potty trained, if she has a pull-up on she pees in it. Letting her be naked worked for awhile until she decided to pee on the kitchen floor and tell me she was a dog. HELP!

I hadn't read Margaret Schwartz's comments, but had told my 3-year-old daughter the same thing - that if she doesn't wear her seatbelt, the police would take mommy away.

Help for skittle 132...as a general rule of thumb if I know that my boys will not be getting any toys that day I tell before we even get out of the car. If they've been good & ask to look at the toys I say yes, but again remind them that we're just looking. But that they can write down 1 or 2 of the toys they want the most & we keep in an envelope. Then on a day that the do get to pick out a toy they can get their list to bring with them to the store.

I tell my daughter that it's okay to be sad and have tears. But it's not okay to scream and whine. When she gets calm I remind her to use her words and tell me "Mommy that makes me sad". Then we talk about it to help her understand the rules and feel better. I remind her that listening even when it is hard will earn her smiley faces on her chart and that means a treat at the end of the day!

When your child spots a toy in the store they really want, acknowledge it by writing it down on their wish list. "You can't have it today, but let's put it on your wish list!"

skittle132: I can't tell you the times that I've LEFT the cart with one of the cashiers and went to the car to COOL DOWN. It happens...you have to remove them from this situation .. period. You can't talk to a child throwing a tantrum in a store. Once in the car let her know to let YOU know when she's through. Believe me..after about 3 times doing this my daughter finally got it. :)

When my kids start whining or throwing a temper tantrum, I simply pretend to throw the tantrum right along with them. I throw my arms out and begin saying "aaaahhhhh" just like they are doing. It gets their attention and distracts them just long enough for me to erupt into laughter at the stunned look on their faces. They start laughing along with me and they completely forget what they were whining about to begin with. I then use that opportunity to help them focus on another activity.

My motto on whining is 0 tolerance. When my daughter starts her whining i get down to her level and remind her(in a calm tone) that whining is not going to work with me you have a choice to stop now or you can owe me 5 minutes in time out..if you are firm and stick with this process your child will see that you arent playing her games believe me it works. With consistancy and teaching your child that you call the shots not her, you will gain control of any whining problem.

To skittle132 when my boys were little and I took them to the store and they started to beg me for something in the toy store.....if I didn't want to buy the toy my answer was always the same.. I would say "Sure you can have that when mommies ship comes in". The secret is that they are not hearing the word no. As you leave the store they forget all about it. Worked for me hope it works for you too.

Its funny. I have the same approach there are other kids in the world that are poorer and that they will eat anything they are given so we should not waste food and not complain about toys..

i do a lot of reminding my kids that other children are starving and have it much worse than they ever will. i think its good to teach our kids a little humility.

Well, my six year old just went crazy in Walmart yesterday because he didn't have enough money to buy a toy he wanted. He screamed like he was in pain and I ignored him, paid for my item, and walked out the door. Once outside, I reminded him of all the kids in the world who are crying for food.

what do i do when my 2years daughter start is in wal-mart because she cannot have a toy

Helpful to know!