Delivery Room Q&A
"I don't want my husband in the delivery room, and he's happy to stay outside. Everyone says we'll regret the decision. What should I do?"
Ignore the pressure to conform, and tell the peanut gallery your decision is what works best for your family -- no need to go into details. "What matters is that you have the support you need," says Brenda Jones, R.N., manager of the Center for Labor and Birth at Brigham and Women's Hospital, in Boston. Even if your husband isn't going to be the official coach, you might still ask him to come to birthing classes. It'll give him an idea of what you'll be going through, and if you change your mind at game time, he'll be ready to go. "There are many ways expectant fathers can be involved; being in the delivery room is just one," says Jones. Plus, the road ahead is filled with dad-friendly activities (think 4 a.m. feedings and poopy diapers).
Originally published in the January 2010 issue of Parents magazine.