Worry #6: Needing a C-Section
Donna Marino, of Cranford, New Jersey, wanted to go drug-free for her first baby: "A birth that ended in a c-section was my worst fear."
More than 30 percent of women in this country now deliver via cesarean, but many mothers-to-be are as apprehensive as Marino was. "A lot of people don't want it," Dr. Krupp says. "But we do c-sections when something is going wrong in labor -- either it's not safe for the baby or the mom, or it's taking so long that they're not making any progress." Ultimately, the goal is a safe delivery for both mother and baby, and "it doesn't really matter how you get there," Dr. Krupp says.
Marino did, indeed, have a c-section when she was induced, and the baby still did not emerge. "To my surprise, my little dumpling weighed 11 pounds, 5 ounces," she says. "You can plan, but what will happen, you never really know."
Which echoes what Dr. Krupp claims is the best approach to labor. Many women "come in set on how they want their labor to go," she says. "They get so disappointed or feel like they've failed, because they set themselves up to have total control over a situation that nobody can control. You've kind of got to go with it and not worry so much." Sound advice, says Chrissy Gala, of Apex, North Carolina. "My husband was at a concert when I went into labor two weeks early," Gala recalls. "My mom had to drive me to the hospital -- not quite how I pictured it!" she laughs. "But then, again, it never is, is it?"