Since you're now so crunched for time, you really need to streamline your life. When you have one child, you can still live without systems for doing laundry and household chores, paying bills, and cooking dinner. But with two, a laissez-faire approach can be harder to get away with. Start small: Try stocking up on diapers so you don't have to keep constant tabs. Buy birthday presents in bulk so you don't have to run out and get one each time an invitation arrives in the mail. Plan to do laundry the same day each week, even if the hamper is overflowing and you have to do half a dozen loads at a time.
When it comes to your kids, you'll also find that setting and sticking to routines is key. As soon as you can, get your new baby on a regular nap and bedtime schedule; everyone will be in a better mood. Eventually, both kids will go to bed around the same time and eat regular meals together, which will make your life a lot easier.
Here are some other things you can do to smooth the transition:
- Take getting to know your baby one day at a time. Chances are he won't be a clone of his older sibling, so be open-minded and realize that every child has a different temperament.
- Babyproof your marriage. Plan a weekly date night so you and your spouse can spend time together away from the house and children. Or, stay home and stop what you're doing as soon as the kids are asleep so you can catch up.
- Create a routine to break up the day. If you have a morning activity one day, spend the afternoon at home or vice versa. With a set schedule, you and your kids know what to expect and have something to look forward to each day.
- Get dressed. While it's tempting to walk around in sweats all day, real clothes will make you feel like a real person -- in control and at ease.