In a perfect world, kids would chat amiably with our friends and colleagues -- or at least politely look Mr. Smith in the eye when he asks: "So, Antonia, what grade are you in now?" But interacting with adults can be uncomfortable -- especially for 6- to 8-year-olds. Kids this age are old enough to be self-conscious (and self-critical), but too young to really know what grown-ups actually want from them. There's no question, however, that there are enormous social, emotional, and even educational payoffs for kids who know how to communicate easily and comfortably with adults. Now's the perfect time to help your child develop this ability by directly addressing all the traits grown-ups find endearing -- and irritating.Giving the Full-On Hello
Meeting an adult can be intimidating for kids (we're bigger, after all, and we have the power to force them to eat broccoli). But you can remove a little of that weirdness. For instance, by now your child is old enough to introduce herself with a smile, make eye contact, and offer an audible greeting and even a handshake, says Dianne Marsch, director of The Etiquette School of Manhattan, which has classes for kids and adults. To help your child become more comfortable with these kinds of introductions, practice her greeting first with you and then with other familiar adults such as grandparents. If she feels shy about making eye contact, tell her to zone in on the adult's nose instead. No one will be the wiser. Also, explain that grown-ups might interpret waving hi and zooming off to play as rude -- even if kids don't mean it that way.Talking to Authority Figures
No matter how much your child likes his teacher, he may still be hesitant to ask her a question or to clarify an assignment. "Kids this age can feel it's not their place to address an adult authority figure like a teacher or a coach, or they may just feel a bit shy about it," says Parents advisor Michele Borba, EdD, author of 12 Simple Secrets Real Moms Know: Getting Back to Basics and Raising Happy Kids. For example, if your son brings home a math paper riddled with mistakes because he was too afraid to ask the teacher to clarify the directions, don't immediately shoot off an e-mail explaining why Henry scored so poorly. Instead, encourage your child to talk with his teacher. Practice what he should say and remind him to follow some simple courtesy rules: Don't interrupt her when she's talking or busy, and always say thank you for helping.