At-Home Issue: You Feel Undervalued
If you're used to getting recognition for your ability as an employee and manager -- not to mention a regular paycheck -- it may be hard to look to yourself for acknowledgment of your achievements as a homemaker, says Craddock. With no one praising you on a day-to-day basis, it's hard to have a real measure of your success.
The Solution: To feel better about yourself, experts recommend trying to put things in perspective. Write a list of the things that made work important to you, suggests Schwartz. Then write down all of the things that make parenting important. How do they compare? You may be surprised to find that they're similar. Schwartz also recommends looking for role models who are in the same position you are. Think about what they do that earns your respect. If you're doing the same kinds of things, aren't you equally worthy of admiration? Perhaps most important, cut yourself some slack. Remember the only women with perfect homes, perfect children, and perfectly organized lives were June Cleaver and Donna Stone (of the Donna Reed Show) -- and they were fictional characters!