Are You Keeping Secrets from Your Husband?

Binky Swear

She went back on a parenting promise!

Jessica Fuqua and her husband, Jason, who live in central Illinois, said they'd never use pacifiers with their twins. Ah, how easy it is to make that decision before you're listening to nonstop crying! By the time the babies were 3 months and teething, Jessica, who runs momfuse.com, was desperate. "I put pacifiers in the freezer and used them to soothe their gums," she says. It worked -- but she'd broken their parenting pact.

Fess up? Yes, says Dr. Lieberman, who also wrote Bad Boys. "Make sure you know why you broke the agreement," she says. In this case, Mom needed help.

What she did: Jessica fessed up, but by accident. For a few weeks, she used pacifiers only when her husband wasn't home. One day, however, she walked into the kitchen and found Jason with his hands literally full of screaming babies. She opened the freezer and popped the pacifiers into the babies' mouths without thinking about it. Oops. "I thought, Oh no!" she says.

"And Jason was disappointed. But after a few days he saw how well the pacifiers worked and came around."