Moms speak out about the creative ways they keep the spark alive now that baby makes 3, or 4, or more.
Sex After Baby: Tips for an Active Sex Life
Once a week, my husband and I take our 9-month-old son to my mother's house. We go out for a nice dinner, or just stay home and cuddle. We also plan a weekend getaway every few months. It really helps reduce stress, and we love seeing how happy our little one gets when we return!
Kimberly, Abingdon, Virginia
I've always been too embarrassed to shop for risque books. But I've already decided that after my baby arrives, I'm going to get over my shyness, buy a book on Kama Sutra, and break it out when my husband least expects it!
Ashley, Vicksburg, Mississippi
My husband works nights, and when he comes home in the morning he wakes me up so we can spend some quality time alone together. Usually we'll snuggle on the couch and watch a movie, and afterward I'll make breakfast for the two of us. Just as we're finishing our early-morning meal, the baby starts to wake up. I know it's not a lot of time, but it's enough to keep the spark in our marriage. I just love the time I get to spend with my husband, and since our baby's arrival, we've learned to catch a moment together whenever we can.
Felicity, Clinton, Utah
My husband and I have been married for a little over four years now, and we have three beautiful children. It's great to go out together, but when it's not date night and we're home with the kids, we like to snuggle and watch TV after we put them to bed. Our marriage is really great, and I think it's because of the time we spend together talking, cuddling, and just being affectionate toward one another. We're still as madly in love with each other today as we were four years ago.
Kimberly, Trenton, Michigan
A Picture's Worth 1,000 Words
Once in a while I send a sexy picture of myself to my husband's cell phone. It's a great way to add a little spice and excitement to our love life, and it puts us both in the mood.
Iris, Avenel, New Jersey
Break Out the Bubbly
We just moved to a new house with a big bathtub. After we put the baby down for the night, we light some candles, draw a bubble bath, and jump into the tub for some quality husband-and-wife time.
Annie, Menifee, California
Originally published in American Baby magazine, February 2007.