Old Friends, New Baby
If you're the first new mom in your circle of friends, maintaining the same relationships you had pre-pregnancy can be as challenging as calming your little one at 3 a.m. Or if most of your friends also have kids now, the few who don't may have trouble relating to your new priorities and worries. "Having a baby can really alter the dynamics of your friendships, but if you're prepared for changes, you can avoid drifting apart from favorite friends," says Rachna D. Jain, PsyD, a psychologist in Columbia, Maryland. Here's how to stay close.
1. Since time is often a factor, invite friends along on daily activities like taking walks, going shopping, or making a child-free trip to the salon. Don't hesitate to include them in baby events like first birthdays.
2. If you feel like you have less in common with your old friends now, encourage everyone to try a new activity. Enlist your group in a new workout regimen, or start a book club (and hire a babysitter).
3. Visit friends who don't have kids while your baby is younger. As she gets older and more mobile, it might be more difficult to take her to homes that aren't childproofed and don't have toys on hand.
4. Remember to listen to your friends. Your child may have just said her first word, but don't forget that your friend just ran her first marathon. You're not the only one with exciting news.
5. When you can't squeeze in a visit or phone call, send an e-mail to let friends know you're still thinking about them. And don't send out too many pictures.
Copyright? 2006. Reprinted with permission from the June 2006 issue of Parents magazine.
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