Your Exit Strategy
The E-mail Route
Head to your keyboard and craft a mass e-mail to the group. The plus: You avoid answering uncomfortable, on-the-spot questions. This strategy works best if you don't know the group well and were not in it for very long. If you've been a member for a while, it may seem impersonal.
The Messenger Route
Tell the person who brought you in that it's not working (your relationship will dictate how much you say). Let her share the information at the next meeting. The plus: Delivering the message is out of your hands.
The Slow Withdrawal Route
Start making it to fewer and fewer meetings. The plus: People will get the message without your having to give much or any of an excuse.
The Direct Route
At what will be your last meeting, announce that you're "retiring" from the group. The plus Saying goodbye in person may result in less speculation about "what went wrong."
If you send an e-mail or speak to the group directly, what should you say?
If you only attended the group a few times, a simple "It's been fun, but I just can't make it work," should suffice. But if you've been a member for several months or longer, finding the right words may be tougher. Vague but gracious often works well: "You guys have been such a great source of support, but I'm finding it's getting harder and harder to make meetings. I'm sure our paths will cross
From Our Readers
Why did you leave your playgroup?
30% said the moms were too competitive;
29% said they had nothing in common with the group;
19% said the kids were brats
22% said for other reasons
According to AmericanBaby.com readers.
Beth Kanter, based in Washington, D.C., recently had her second child and opted out of joining a playgroup.
Originally published in American Baby magazine, May 2007.
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