Making and Keeping Friends as an Adult

"Breaking Up"

SW: Can you talk about the dynamics of friendships -- how do you break up with a friend who is not right for you anymore?

MP: I've been getting this question a lot, and I think it depends on why you're breaking up. If it's somebody who is a kind person, but you just don't feel a connection, I think you could take the path of disengagement. But you have to do what you feel comfortable with. Communication is so important -- because some friendships don't have to break up. It's ideal if you can address it when the friendship is still salvageable, perhaps by saying, "I feel like our connection is weakening. What do you think?"

But when somebody betrays you, that's a little different. Then you can straight out say, "I don't want to be your friend anymore."

Parents Are Talking

Add a Comment