Getting engaged to my now-husband was one of the most exciting moments of my life, but, early on, that excitement quickly morphed into a knot of stress. When we started to talk about moving in together, we had a conversation about money. The next day I woke up with a queasy feeling.
I was a free spender, and my soon-to-be-husband had always been a saver. I would have to confess that I had credit card debt -- and a lot of it. I'll never forget the look on his face when I finally mustered up the courage to reveal how much I owed. He was flabbergasted, and then furious. I was sheepish and, of course, defensive.
The argument that ensued wasn't exactly fun, but it was productive. After a lot of talking and negotiating, we came up with a money management plan to meet both our financial and emotional needs. Ten years later, both of us are still on the same page.
Money is the top reason couples fight, but it doesn't have to be. Whether or not your resolutions have to do with strengthening your relationship, now is a great time to refresh the way you connect. I turned to experts Syble Solomon, financial expert and creator of the interactive tools Money Habitudes, and Taffy Wagner, D.Min., author of Bride and Groom Money Talk FAQ. They shared the top eight situations that couples fight about when it comes to money, and how the two of you can get on the same page -- for keeps.