Relating to Grandparents

it's not easy to deal with them, as i have set our own rules and grandparents state that the rules are too much. it really makes me ill feel when they put on their rules on the kids, as the differences may confusing.

Despite the fact that thousand's of children are being raised by their grandparents, not one single article in your parenting section dealt with this issue.

My in laws aggravate me so much. Whenever they keep him overnight they never keep him on schedule. They hardly help out with his potty training. They feed him junk food all day and never brush his teeth. I've bought a brand new toothbrush and new toothpaste to figure that out and they never opened it. I always try to give them the benefit of the doubt, but I always get disappointed.

My mother in law is pushy, hogs my baby, will take her to a different room when we go to visit, and now wants to have a say on her 1st birthday. My husband and I had agreed to take a vacation for my baby's birthday, but now she wants to have a birthday celebration. This complicates everything because I will then have to include my family on this as well, and it goes against our original decision of celebrating a simple bithday. Now all this is putting a strain on my relationship with my husband.

I have had the same problem with my mother, giving my son thing that my husband and I have repeated asked her not give him. He does not get candy, cookies, ect. or pop. A few weeks ago, my son had dental surgery to restore damage done to his teeth by drinking milk and juice all day. The very next day my mother and her boyfriend gave him candy. I could not believe they would be so dense as to give a 3yo who just had $3000 worth of dental work done candy. Ridiculous.

Omg that's crazy who gives a 2 month old bananas and to top if of not even tell you!! not only that with 2 months she does not have the hability to chew(no teeth) or swallow a piece of fruit, Jesus Christ!!

It is great when parents ask grandparents for advise but when grandparents dont respect the fact that parents can do very well on their own with out being treated like complete idots it is a different story. Sometimes grandparents dont respect their own children as parents them selfs. I CAN take care of my child real advise is great, but ordering me around like a 3 year old is a huge no no!!!

Recently my 2 month old stayed with her dad's mother and aunt. When I took the baby home I noticed right away that something was not right. She was SEVERELY gassy and she was having stomach troubles for a few days. I called the "mother in law" (not really the father and I are not married) and she told me she had given the baby bananas. WTH? What if she had been allergic to the bananas to the point of being hospitalized... or worse?? I am still angry!!!! Any advice???

oh don't even go there.

We just had our daughter Christened and things have changed even since our son was Christened 3 years ago for the exact situation that you are describing. Now Papal order has come down to the churches that the parents must provide a birth certificate to the priest prior to the sacrament of Baptism being provided so that grandparents, aunts/uncles, etc. can't do something in "secret" and against the parents' wishes.

I Guess I am very lucky, both my parents and my in-laws rarely go against our parenting style....when they do it's little things that aren't too important (sleeping with them when she stays the night and things like that). I'm so sorry that all your inlaws/parents act like they do....I would def. voice my opinions to them, loud and clear.

To lisa07051: Your husband must address this directly & now. Her threat bodes poorly for your future. She is just asking for the boundaries to be stated very clearly and PROMPTLY--w/ no qualms or apologies. I'm a youngish (48) step-grandma, & I can tell you, this behavior is so disrespectful to you both as parents. As her son, your husband, & this baby's father, your husband needs to put grandma in her place & establish himself as someone who will not be pushed around or threatened by her.

my husband and I do not have the same religious beliefs as my mother in law. Our child isn't even born yet and she is already planning on christening our baby without us. I plan on breastfeeding our baby, so she won't get to take him anywhere, but I am sure she will try to sneak him out and get this done, as she has told my husband that she is planning the christening! What do I do?

Grandparents visited us for 6 months and look after my 7 month old daughter . It was one of the most stressfull times of my life. It hurt our relationship with them a lot. They were trying to interfere in everything, the house, our lifestyle, our parenting. They were ignoring the rules and were way out of the limits. I do not want any help, just want them stay away.. Luckily they live abroad. Next time my husband wants them here, it's definitely no for anyhting more than a short visit.

My mother-in-law loves to play "Mommy" with my son. My son is 16 months old, and she feeds him inappropriate foods that he often chokes on. She is hygenically challenged as well, and she never follows any of my rules or guidelines and criticizes everything I do.

They even gave her m&m's.

I am constantly challenged by my in-laws. They feed my daughter everything under the sun without thinking of the consequences. ( alfredo sauce when she was 5 mths, popcorn and peanuts -she is 19 months old) And when we are over there and it is time for her to eat, Grandma will stand behind me and make faces and distract my daughter who of course is going to want to get down and play. They think that feeding her junk (chips, popsicles,cheetos) will make her come to them more.

What do you do when the Grandmother cuts your daughters hair, the first time it's been cut EVER! Especially after I specifically told her not to! My Mother too ignores our bedtime time, as she thinks the later she keeps her up the later she (my Mom) will get to sleep in the next morning. Boy is she wrong when that 5am wake up call comes!

I am challenged by my mother in law ignoring our schedule to put our son down for bedtime by 7:00 p.m. She has been kind enough to watch him twice a week for us; however, every time we pick him up at 8:00 p.m. she is telling us that he has been cranky. My response is that he is up well past his bedtime and needs to go down by 7:00 p.m.