Star Strategy #3: They Don't Apologize for "Me" Time
"At first I fell behind at work. I stopped riding horses. I even left an exercise class because I felt so guilty about being away from my newborn," Rivers says. "It took me months to figure out how to balance all aspects of my life. But I realized that giving up hobbies and responsibilities didn't make me a better mommy. I was actually more bitter and more stressed than when I took time to myself."
A few activities just for you can make a huge difference in your happiness quotient. Can't afford the babysitter? Think about people who might owe you a favor. "Starting with your husband," says UPN star and two-time dad Flex Alexander. "He helped get you into this. The least he can do is pull some diaper duty."
And of course the two of you need couple time as well. Malcolm in the Middle's Jane Kaczmarek has said that one of the best pieces of advice she ever got was from Kate Capshaw, wife of uber-director Steven Spielberg and mom to seven children. "She told me that kids certainly need a lot of attention, but so do relationships. Our kids don't want us to go out, but as crazy as it gets with kids and jobs, the marriage is the backbone. We do the best we can with the limited time we have."
Faith Hill agrees. "You can't neglect your marriage, or it will fail," she has said. "Tim [McGraw] and I schedule dates at least once a week. Sometimes it's a fancy trip to the beach, sometimes it's just breakfast alone."