Home Practice for Zen Moms
In the morning, after getting dressed, Azalea and I sit on the floor and make a vow for the day. I usually say something like, "I vow to be gentle with myself and Azalea today," or "I vow not to raise my voice," and Azalea usually says something along the lines of, "I vow, Mommy."
Count Your Blessings
Realize how fortunate you are. In the midst of the eighth load of laundry that week, I try to bring to mind how wonderful it is that I can keep my child clean and comfortable. When the boredom of cooking noodles threatens to overwhelm me, I take a moment to really feel in my body how grateful I am that I have enough to feed her. Not every mother is so lucky.
Remember to Breathe
Often. And deeply. Maybe you have to make a pact with yourself that every time you do something routine (flush the toilet, open the fridge door, change a diaper) you use it as a cue to remind yourself to take a slow, deep breath. There is no underestimating the power of truly allowing yourself to simply be a few times a day.
Originally published in the August 2011 issue of Parents magazine.