Leave no trace.
Mom translation: Take responsibility for yourself and your mess. And teach your child to do the same.
In Zen we're taught that the state of our mind is reflected in the way we create our home. Scary, right? A scattered mind likely equals a messy environment -- and vice versa.
This isn't meant as a judgment -- if you like chaos, no problem. But who can thrive in a house filled with piles of laundry, disassembled toy parts, and peanut butter smeared on the couch? Of course it's not healthy to get all wound up about trying to keep everything spotless, but learning to notice all the stuff we leave in our wake is a good practice for everyone.'
At the monastery there were signs posted reminding us to "leave no trace." Obviously, when you're living with lots of other people, every stray item adds up. But even though there are only three of us, teaching Azalea that simple message is a great way for her to learn awareness and responsibility. For example, when she wants to dump all the Goodnight Moon game pieces on the floor, that's fine. Let's play! Oops, you changed your mind? Okay, but first let's put the game away. If we don't, the pieces will get lost.