Keep the Romance Alive
The research is clear: Happy marriages produce happy kids. So while it's easy to get caught up in the demands of raising your children, you need to make time for your spouse too. Going out by yourselves at least once a month is a good start. But also look for ways to squeeze intimate moments into your day, even if it's just going to The Home Depot together or sharing a glass of wine after the kids are in bed.
Christy Jacob, a St. Paul, Minnesota, mother of five, says she and her husband, Abe, invite each other on "coffee dates" at the kitchen table on weekend mornings. "Sometimes we'll laugh because it's total chaos around us, but at other times the kids end up occupying themselves and we get a little time to hang out and talk about things that actually don't involve them," says Jacob. "The important thing is that we make a conscious effort to spend time together."