Amy Bardwell never expected to be picking up free groceries at her neighborhood food pantry. But she worries every month about how to scrape together the money needed to pay her family's rent and utility bills and still have enough left over for food.
A few years ago, Amy and her husband, Otis, who are parents of Edmund, 3, and Lydia, 7, were living comfortably in the Los Angeles suburbs. When Otis decided to go back to school for a master's degree, the college-educated couple felt sure it would make him even more employable as a college art instructor. "He wanted to shift away from office administration," explains Bardwell, who now works part-time as a nanny, bringing Edmund with her. "We heard that lots of teachers were approaching retirement age, which would create all these new opportunities." But by the time Otis graduated in 2008, the recession had hit and the job market dried up. "He cobbles together work as best he can, picking up one class here, one class there, but he's been underemployed for more than two years now and we're just barely making it," Bardwell confesses.
In order to put dinner on the table, the family has cut back every expense they can. They've deferred student loans and they pay cash for everything to avoid credit-card debt. "It can feel surreal because we live in a pretty affluent neighborhood -- I see other moms getting together for coffee at Starbucks, which I can't do now," says Bardwell. "One of the most discouraging things is not being able to afford the piano lessons and gymnastics classes that our kids see their friends taking. I hate for them to miss out." Bardwell tries to put a positive spin on their situation when she talks about it with Lydia and Edmund. "I try to say that everybody needs help sometimes, and right now we're getting help from some nice people," she explains. "I also talk about how it's important for us to help others. I'll hand them a quarter to put in the Salvation Army bucket, for example, so they get a sense of what it feels like to give as well as receive."
She admits that she's worried about other people's reactions when she's reached out for help. "I've had to get over my own preconceptions, where I'd think, 'Oh, you just need to work harder,' or 'Don't waste your money on the nonessential stuff,'" Bardwell admits, getting teary-eyed. "Because now it's my son's birthday and I really want to buy some frosting to put on the cake mix we got at the food pantry. And that's a nonessential. But it just doesn't feel that way when it's your child."
The family hasn't missed a meal yet, but Bardwell isn't sure where they'd be without regular trips to the food pantry. Many nights, they eat rice and beans, sometimes with a canned vegetable on the side. "We're so thankful for the help, but it can be frustrating because it's not, 'What do I feel like cooking tonight?' anymore," Bardwell adds. "It's, 'What did we get and will it be enough to keep everyone well fed?'"
The Bardwells are four of the more than 50 million Americans who worry about having enough to eat today, a number that has climbed nearly 40 percent since the start of the recession in 2007. It's a group that now includes more than 17 million children, meaning one in four American kids are what the United States Department of Agriculture classifies as "food insecure," or living in a household that has difficulty providing enough food for all of its members. The states with the highest food-insecurity rates are, in order: Arkansas, Mississippi, Georgia, Texas, and North Carolina. Households with children report food insecurity at almost double the rate of childless households, and Feeding America, the nation's largest network of food pantries, says the number of children using its services has jumped 50 percent in the past four years. Nearly half of its clients are now in suburban and rural areas, an increase of 58 percent from 2006.
Families with babies and young kids are the ones who are least likely to be getting enough to eat -- and these children are also the group that suffers the most from being malnourished. Though hunger gets the most media attention around the holidays, summertime is actually the roughest stretch for many children because they can't rely on free or low-cost school-provided breakfasts and lunches to get them through the week. "Before the recession, we had a lot of families living very close to the edge," says Parents advisor Irwin Redlener, M.D., president of the Children's Health Fund. "Now, they have fallen off the cliff."
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My husband works full time, I am going to college full time, and we receive food stamps. On $15 a day I have to feed my family and pay bills. I can hardly believe that there are so many short sided americans whom really think that these families are living off the government. I thought this was an honest portrayl of the hunger crisis here in America. Unfortunately some people will never get it. Great job Parents!
8/19/2011 01:26:11 PM Report AbuseLong term Unemployment make times difficult, I´m glad this family hasn´t suffer the agony of sending their kids to bed hungry not knowing if they´ll have breakfast.Living in a country where daily I see a homeless woman and her two children on the streets begging for food, it´s heartbreaking, specially since I became a mother too. To the lady who share the story,I am not underestimating her struggle to make ends meet, but a Hunger Crisis is something that most of us don´t know the meaning of...
8/16/2011 04:38:54 PM Report AbuseWow...no compassion from the two bitchy women who commented last. They've obviously never experienced the hardship of unemployment, especially for those who are highly educated. They are often over-qualified and McDonalds won't hire them. Thank goodness these people can "mooch off the system" as lauren brown so eloquently put it. Thanks for sharing the article, Parents....unfortunately, some people just don't get it.
8/9/2011 05:19:00 PM Report AbuseMasters degree in Art? Did that really sound like a good idea? Tell him to get another part-time job. Give me a break. I can't believe this is the most compelling story out there. How about the stories of women who have no education, five kids, and a husband who is a factory worker in rural America and can't get a job? Or the same woman whose husband dies?
8/9/2011 10:57:00 AM Report Abusetell your husband to man up and get a job. so he cant work in the field he wants? get a job at mcdonalds so you dont have to mooch off the system. no sympathy. When you cant afford to feed your kids, its a problem. i mean how much does a tub of peanut butter and a loaf of bread cost? no excuses. isnt feeding your children the number one criteria parents should have? id be crying if i was you too.
8/9/2011 09:59:38 AM Report AbuseFantastic story. It needs to be read by more people. It reminds us all the not everyone is the same and the last few years of this recession has put an additional strain on the American people. We need to stand together and help one another; today and everyday.
8/3/2011 05:33:47 PM Report AbuseAs a child, I walked everyday to the store to buy groceries with food stamps and in 3rd grade, a girl told me that my father's car was literally a "piece of s**t". Even then I never thought that I was poor. Needless to say,I feel that this article gives society mixed messages when we exempt focus on people who struggle from day one of their lives to get out of poverty and still as adults have to struggle day in and day out everyday to get out of it.
7/2/2011 11:21:24 PM Report Abuse