Different kids You share a special interest with one child more than another.
Chances are your kids won't all have the same hobbies -- and that you'll be more into some of their passions than others. So if you like to scrapbook with your daughter while Dad prefers to hang at the park with your son, that's okay. "You can't expect to have the same connection with all of your kids," says Dr. Coleman. The challenge is to find ways to bond with each child, whether you have lots -- or little -- in common.
Different rules If you take one kid to soccer every week, block out a regular time to do something your nonathletic child likes, whether it's going to a comic-book store or visiting a science museum. "You might even develop new interests," says Dr. Hart. "I know dads who have told me, 'I never thought I'd be into ballet, but I enjoy spending time with my daughter and watching her perform.'" Don't make these outings contingent on good behavior or cancel them if they conflict with someone else's schedule; they should be unconditional.