Want to raise a respectful, polite kid? We do too! That's why we always make sure our children write good old-fashioned thank-you notes. Sending a card after getting a birthday present or holiday gift isn't just good manners -- it will also give your child a chance to reflect on how thoughtful his family and friends are. One way to make this a learning experience -- instead of a chore -- is to talk about why he needs to send Grandma a card. Chances are, he'll realize that it makes her happy -- and this awareness of other people's feelings is critical to raising a moral child.
So what's the formula for a perfect thank-you? "There isn't one!" says Peggy Post, manners maven and Parents contributing editor. "You should try to send it within a few days of receiving the gift, but the most important thing is to be sincere." If your child can write, let him do it himself. Sure he'll make a few spelling mistakes, but that will just make the note more authentic. Help him with the basics -- make sure he mentions the gift and how much he's enjoying it. Then when you're done, mail his thank-you together.
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A friend has her little girl open a present and write the Thank You note before opening the next present. This is done in a quiet setting after the birthday kiddie bday party has ended. And I have one blank book and record a list of presents in the book plus a check mark once the Thank You note has been written. I use it for birthdays and holidays and it keeps the info in one central location.
1/6/2010 09:41:22 PM Report AbuseHmm - something went a little funny with my comment submission - the comment above about homemade Thank You cards was from Lynette www.picpocketbooks.com
1/6/2010 11:28:27 AM Report AbuseWriting Thank You cards has always been an important part of our holidays. I like to have my kids make their own cards: they draw a picture then I make color copies on photo paper and glue it onto card stock. The cards are lovely and the kids get a little break on drawing multiple pictures so they can focus on writing a personal note. The recipient still gets a personalized card that shows the child's artwork - it can be quite a keepsake, actually!
1/6/2010 11:26:51 AM Report Abuse