Be a Role Model
As with most values you hope to instill in your kids, what you do means more than what you say. So let them see you struggle a little. "When something goes wrong in your life, your instinct may be to shield them, but you should do the opposite," says Shenk. After a recent professional setback, he talked to Lucy, 14, and Henry, 8, about it. "I said I was upset, but I wasn't going to give up," he recalls. An accomplished musician, Shenk also practices in front of his children (both of whom play instruments) so they can see the hard work involved in mastering a new piece. After all, you can lecture all day about being persistent, but nothing is more powerful than showing a child what it truly means.