"You're a new mom with lots to do, so this is not the time to prove that you're Betty Crocker," says Sandy Jones, coauthor of Great Expectations: Baby's First Year (Sterling), who is also a grandmother. "Make it as easy as you can." That's why Camille Bodnar, of Pittsburgh, hosts a potluck. "I do the turkey and stuffing with my mother's help, and I ask my guests to bring something specific," says the mom to Dominic, 1. "We also use Crock-Pots for items like the green bean casserole so we can free up some room in the oven. So far, each year has been a huge success!"