Packing and Boarding
It's impossible to overstate the importance of a well-stocked carry-on bag. Wind-up toys, crayons, board books, and comfort objects will help keep your child diverted and prevent tantrums. "I buy a bunch of small, inexpensive toys and don't let my kids see them until the flight," says Karen Kline, of San Carlos, California. Pack loose items in clear plastic bags so you can grab them quickly, says Ericka Lutz, author of On the Go with Baby. Also tote along a day's worth of diapers, baby wipes, and an extra set of clothes -- for your little one and for you. When my son threw up all over my sweater, I said a silent prayer of thanks that I'd brought along a backup. And don't forget food: Many airlines no longer serve meals. So pack plenty of healthy kid snacks, such as crackers, Cheerios, sliced fruit, and mini bagels.
Control airport chaos
Arrive early, because everything takes extra time with a toddler, says Vicki Lansky, author of Trouble-Free Travel with Children. Many major airports have a play area and a nursery (the latter usually has a changing area, rocking chairs, a microwave oven, a fridge, and sinks for cleaning), so pick up a courtesy phone and track these down.
Don't be in a hurry to get on the plane, even if the airline invites you to board first. The less time a baby spends in a confined airplane, the better. Try this alternative: Have your spouse lug the gear onto the plane early, then stay behind at the gate with your child until the last minute.
Slide through security
Ask whether there's a family-friendly security lane, which can reduce your wait time and stress level, and wear slip-on shoes so you can kick them off easily. If you're carrying milk or formula, let the security agent know (these liquids are permitted, along with jarred baby food and yogurt in 3-ounce or smaller containers). Bring a compact stroller that folds easily, and be prepared to carry your baby through the security checkpoint. Once you're clear, you can push your child all the way to the gate, check the stroller there, and get it back at the gateway as you step off the plane at your destination. Also keep in mind that airport regulations are in constant flux these days, so call your airline or visit the Transportation Safety Administration Web site (tsa.gov) for an update.
Avoid airborne hassles
Nurse your child or give him a bottle, a sippy cup, or a Binky as the plane takes off and descends, since swallowing helps prevent altitude-related ear pain. For diaper changes, head to the bathroom (you'll get dirty looks if you do it at your seat). Most restrooms have a pull-down changing table above the toilet. "In case there isn't one, I bring a large pad, close the lid, and put my child down on that," says Lara Bair, of Arlington, Virginia.
If your little one spits up frequently in the car, ask your pediatrician to prescribe an antihistamine (motion-sickness meds aren't safe for kids under 2). If she becomes queasy during the flight, turn the overhead vent toward her face; the cool air may help her feel better. Make sure you have an airsickness bag handy. And if she vomits, ask the flight attendant for help with cleanup. Most flights can offer a kit that contains a cleaning solvent, a disinfectant, and an odor eliminator.