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4 y/o developing hitting / manipulation problems
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Hi there,


I'm new to these forums, but hoping I can get (and contribute) some good insight and advice although, unfortunately, today I'm soliciting the former. 


We have a 4 and 3 y/o (both girls), separated by 18 months. Recently, our 4 y/o has taken to punching her younger sister. We've tried timeouts, taking away toys, and talking to her, but apart from the epic tantrums that result, we're getting nowhere. "Sorry" is little more than a word, and I suspect she's gotten used to saying it and then getting her way after the fact. 


Today, after fists were thrown on 3 separate occasions, we told the older one she's no longer allowed to go to the zoo in 2 two weeks--no ifs, ands, or buts. We were/are hoping that this will be a lesson to her to think about her actions before throwing fists, but she's now manipulated her younger sister into believing that the zoo is stupid, so now the younger sister wants to stay home too. 


The next thing we're thinking about trying is taking away Christmas presents (we do very few to try not to spoil them) and making her donate them instead. I can handle the tantrums and I'm okay with getting her nothing for Christmas if that's what will stop the fist throwing. 


Any advice from others who have successfully gotten through this?