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KristinGR9782
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Registered: ‎01-03-2014
Re: My 15 year says she will never go to college

Both previous replies have very good points and I would like to expand on the idea of discussing her options with her. Have you talked to her about what her ideal modeling career would look like? Ask her what she really thinks about the models that only show their underwear or skimpy bathing suits. This will help you get a better idea of what she is thinking about that, and hopefully calm some of your fears as far as 'degrading' herself. Find out if she really understands what a modeling career entails and also point out the models that also have college degrees. You will have to stay calm in your discussions with her about this becaus if she thinks it's going to freak you out even more than it already is, it will make her determination even worse. If she truely ends up being determined to do this (and as the others pointed out, she could change her mind rather quickly and easily) just realize that there are worse careers out there.

 

Also, speaking from my own experience, it will mean so much more to her later if you are supportive of her in exploring her interest. I really wanted to pursue acting, but like you, my parents didn't see it as realistic and I didn't have the self confidence to pursue it on my own. Now, going on 13 years after graduating high school, I really wish that my parents would have been more supportive and helped me explore more avenues because I regret not pushing harder and constantly wonder 'what if?'. So even if she tries and fails, she will remember that you were willing to help her in any way you could. That help can come with conditions, such as only age-appropriate jobs if she succeeds and her working to pay for things like head-shots and classes (but do your best to make sure the classes are legit). 

 

Good luck and I hope that you find the best answer for your family.