12-11-2013 01:27 AM
12-13-2013 03:11 PM
You need to deal in a better way with child psychology. A child mind is not so much to expect from and your kid is really not so much grown up. I agree that he might lack attention, but you need to handle that situation with a different approach, A punishment should never be taken as mode of reenforcing discipline. That's not a good concept. Rather you can possibly figure out those reasons and make him undertand through some act as what you expect from your kid. Children do understand soft whispers of one who they love. Try something different next time. Hope this helps.
12-16-2013 08:14 PM
12-22-2013 08:03 PM
For starters, can you personally remember a time where you felt really scared? Even if it was a nightmare and you woke up and felt thankful that it wasn't real and you were able to snuggle up to your spouse. Kids deserve that safe feeling all the time and much as possible, without parents creating intentional fear to make a point, and really THEIR point. You say that typically your son is a good listener. Yet at times he will forget. Do you think that it's abormal for a 5 year old to forget? Have you as an adult never forgotten? Have you also ever made a promise to your child and not followed through? Have you said one thing and then poo pooed it off and had to explain to you child, it can't happen now- sorry buddy? If this is acceptable/undertsnable behavior for you as an adult, why is a 5 year old child that is still learning and new to this world not allowed the same resepct? Can you iimagine what the child feels and is thinking when a parent says, " If you do bad again, I will leave you like this, so if you want mom and dad, listen and remember what mom and dad says?". It leaves a message alright. Not the one you want to leave, though. It's good that you reconize that you were angry and reacted poorly. It happens to all of us, but we can change and minimize this. http://www.ahaparenting.com/_blog/Parenting_Blog/p
12-28-2013 09:24 AM
02-25-2014 08:27 AM
In all honesty, I am surprised you didn't get arrested or someone didn't see you and call the police or worse... take your child. Anything can happen in a split second and all you will have left is the rest of your life to regret it. He is 5. Not 15. You may have created abandonment issues with him and possibly broken any trust or bond you had with him. I hope that he won't be in therapy trying to recover from this extreme dramatic experience.
Have you considered that just maybe, he may not be acting defiant? Maybe, he is showing signs of ADD or ADHD. Maybe you should be concerned about him instead of quick to be angry. He needs your help not your punishment. You should create a healthy safe environment that he will be able to grow and improve with, not fear. Do you really want your child scared that you'll snap one day and leave him at a store because you just don't love him or want him anymore???? I just can't get over what you did.
LOVE, PATIENCE, and PRAYER is what you need to help raise him to be a good man.