03-18-2014 09:32 AM
From day one, he has always slept in his bed and we have always had a routine (bath, teeth, potty, books, etc.), but lately this routine has begun taking forever! Now he wants to swing (hold his hands and swing him back and fourth), then read a book, then do a little dance; and this is all AFTER the bathroom stuff. Actually even all of that isn't too bad, but the real problem becomes after the light goes off and we rock, then he climbs into bed....then he has to go pee, then he wants another round of hugs, then many times he decides he needs to go #2 as well (yes this woudl be the 3rd trip to the potty since the bedtime routine started), and yes he actually goes potty, even if it is just a little all 3 times! Then normally after all of that I hear him in his bed playing for 30-60 minutes before he ever falls asleep. He won't get out of his bed on his own unless one of us opens his door, not sure how we lucked out with that, so he isn't getting up and walking around. But what used to take 30-45 minutes is now taking 45-90 minutes and I am at my wits end. My husband is gone 99% of the time during the week which leaves me as a single mother and I have lately found myself getting more and more upset with my son for this procrastination. Any advice or tips are appreciated!
03-19-2014 08:32 AM
I had similar happen with my 3 year old about 6 months or so ago (DH works evening swing to so like you I'm alone for bedtime). It took a lot of consistency to get her to stop procrastinating bed. I would tuck her in and she'd ask to go potty like 5 times!!! And each time she would pee just a little bit or poop just a little bit too!!! To get her to stop that I started to tell her that she could go potty ONE more time after she got tucked in and then no. more. trips. to the bathroom. After about a week of that she stopped going after her last bathroom trip.
For the kisses/ hugs thing she could have me giving her kisses for like 30 minutes if I let her. So I had to start telling her last kiss, all done, then leaving the room.
She also has a water bottle and I'll give it to her and put it back after she's done, but I've had to be really clear I'll only do it that ONE time. Or else I'd be in there all night long giving it to her.
I will warn you though that this was met with MUCH resistance. I want to say the worst night was a 1 1/2 hour long terror (because temper is the wrong word for what happened that night) tantrum. I'm actually amazed her younger sister slept through the whole thing because they share a room. But that was really the only bad night we had. Since then bedtime routine/ bedtime has cut down to about a 15 minute process whereas before it could be an hour long with everything DD was asking for.
03-25-2014 05:50 PM
04-27-2014 12:17 PM
I'm in the same situation with my 3 year old. He's always had the same bed time, the same routine, and has ALWAYS slept through the night. Now, he'll take several minutes to find the book he wants to read and brushing his teeth/ going potty, then once I finally put him down, he "drops" his blanky or his book (he likes to sleep with whatever book we read that night) and he'll cry for me to come find it for him. He'll do this 2 or 3 times before he quietens down, but I still find him sitting up in his bed with a toy if I peek my head in. I've tried taking all the toys from his room, but then he just finds ways to play with his blanky. Its honestly very irratating, especially for a single mother.
04-27-2014 06:41 PM
Being a mom, you should try to do something which could give him a reason to wake up early. Maybe he is lacking the energy level on thst occasion and avoids to go into the same mundane routine. So it's better that you plan out something right in the morning to make him pouce on his routine. It might be tough in the beginning but gradually he would be ok.
05-14-2014 09:41 PM