01-14-2014 07:21 AM
Hello, I'm hoping someone can help me. I have a 13 year old son who has a bad temper. He has been like this since he was 2! I have seen child psychologists when he was little, as he was hitting other children and shouting at his nursery teachers etc. They didn't really tell me much.
Throughout his schooling we are always getting calls from school saying he's being rude and disruptive. He is also verbally aggressive at home, and if being confronted about something (even when I just want to ask him about something) he starts bending his fingers back and picking at his arms then storms off to his room and breaks things/ throws things?
To be honest I'm at my witts end... can anyone help? Thank you.
01-14-2014 01:43 PM
You need him to get reevaluated by someone that specializes in working with teenagers. I would, however, not go in expecting a specific diagnosis of ADD/ADHD (in fact from your description I don't think that's what his diagnosis would be at all from a professional therapist/ psychologist/ psychiatrist) but instead I would specifically address your concerns, not as a diagnosis but as a general he has these things going on that are disruptive to himself and others. I don't want to put any different diagnoses in this post because I think that it leads us to believe oh, this fits, that fits, OMG I'm an adult living with ADD my entire life when that very well might not be the case. A family doctor isn't the best channel to go through for a diagnosis as well, since they aren't as well versed in the different diagnoses and are more likely to misdiagnose (for example, somewhere around 10% of kids diagnosed with ADHD are later found to be misdiagnosed as teens or adults, and nearly always were diagnosed by their pediatrician). Many of the diagnoses have similar bullet points, but they each have some very different element from the last that not only differentiates it, but may even be exacerbated by treatment for ADHD.
01-15-2014 12:42 AM
Thank you. Unfortunately we live in a tiny place where the gp practice is rubbish and its an hour to the nearest hospital. We only have the gp surgery and if you can't get referred than you can't do anything about it. I managed to get him in with the school councillor. When I spoke to the councillor his first question to me was "has he been tested for ADHD?" Then I've done a bit of research and I'm just not sure.
It's also hard when you can't get any advice or help from anyone.
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