05-27-2014 08:47 PM
Someone please help me... because i am feeling horrible. My husband and i have been ttc for the past 6 months and weve just found out that i am 6 weeks. I will first say, that a few months back we thought i was pregnant. I was SO excited! I was on the roll, ready, happy, etc... then i found out that we were not. I was heart broken and bawled my eyes out. We decided to stop trying, i thought about it for awhile and i knew i had more that i wanted to do before our big step. And then? Boom. Baby. I was so estatic when i found out! And then?... well, now i feel so down. I feel not ready, i feel not in control, and i DONT feel like myself what so ever. What is wrong with me? Should i feel happy? We had our announcement made, and now everyone is flooding me with "warm wishes" and "congratulations" and the more i read/hear them the more it makes my stomach turn. Will this feeling pass?? I am so nervous, and i feel horrible right now.
Another big issue im having to over come is with smoking. Yes. Top it off enough to make me feel horrible, im STILL smoking. I went to the hospital the other day and the Dr. told me that if i just quit cold turkey it could actually put stress on my body AND to the baby, which normally causes miscarriages. Has anyone ever heard of this? Because i have not. Also, i feel like im smoking more. Almost craving it.
I would greatly appriciate it if everyone would please try and put yourself in my shoes before the quick judgement. Im reaching out for help and im hoping someone here can walk me though this.
05-28-2014 08:43 AM
05-28-2014 12:41 PM
05-28-2014 01:04 PM
I think it pretty normal to feel like maybe you weren't as ready as thought, but that is not sort of thing women normally put out there. I think with pretty much anything, you can research, analyze, and then after you have a made a decision you worry if it was the right one, but it's too late to go back. And having a human-being inside is like 10x something trivial like a career move or getting a tattoo - this is a person you are carrying and with will care for the next 18+ years, ya know?
And Yes, I have heard of doctors saying that before about gradually cutting back on smoking if you were previously a heavy-smoker. I used to smoke, but made the decision to stop before getting pregnant. I was at the airport, in Atlanta, and they have in-door smoking areas so you don't have to go all the way outside. I was in there smoking during a lay-over and there was a young mom who stepped just in the door to smoke, while she had her toddler on a one of the back-pack baby leashes. She made the kid stay outside, away from the smoke, but the kid kept trying to take off, dragging the mom out of the smoking area. I looked at my friend and with both were like, 'Nope, we don't want to be that kind of mom" and made our plans to stop smoking. I know it's tough, but you can do it!
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