06-30-2013 06:28 PM
So, I had an IUD put in after my 6 week check up and the doc approved. Well, my fiance and I have been well, doing our thing ever since. Well, I'm pregnant now, (taken 5 tests) and am terrified. I mean my duaghter is only 4 months, there's a good chance they could end up being less than a year apart since I was a very high risk pregnancy last time due to cervix issues. This thing is 99.2% effective, how in the hell do I tell my fiance that I'm the very small .8 percent? I need advice ASAP!!
06-30-2013 10:24 PM
The best place to start is to make a dr appointment. The dr can confirm the pregnancy and can help you understand how this happened so you can better explain it to your fiance.
Hang in there and keep us posted. I want to know what the dr says as well as your fiance. I'm also always around here if you need someone to talk to.
07-01-2013 05:56 AM
07-25-2013 01:07 PM
well they do tell that it is only 99% effective. I am pretty sure he will not be mad!! shocked, surprised and confused for sure!! just tell him asap so you guys can make a decision, but ultimitely it is your decision.
07-25-2013 01:09 PM
I agree with the others; get checked by your doctor to verify. There's always a chance the test is a false positive.
If you are pregnant I would look for support groups of people who have children close in age. There are good and bad things with every age gap between siblings. It may be harder when they're babies (two in diapers, that sort of thing) but I've heard it's much better when they're older and they can be good friends and playmates for each other. I'm sure there are plenty of people out there who have been in your shoes who have lots of good advice to give and who can give you moral support as well. They may also have suggestions on how to tell your fiance, or what they did when they found out. Good luck!
07-25-2013 01:09 PM
Something similar happend to one of my friends (although not so quickly after her first). It is very important to call your doctor right away to confirm the pregnancy and get the iud out. Your fiance should be understanding since it obviously wasn't either of your fault. Congrats and good luck!
07-25-2013 01:10 PM
07-25-2013 01:10 PM - edited 07-25-2013 01:11 PM
Ok I was kinda in your shoes 4 years ago .. But I was married. We just had our son and was told if we wanted more kids we would have to come back for a another round of fertility treatments. So at his baptism I had my 1st round of seizures. ( have a history of seizures) So the next day we were at my mom's house cleaning up from my son's party from the night before and I had back to back seizures which I normaly dont have so they ran my up to the hosptial by ems .. The drs kept on asking me if I was pregnant I became upset with their questions and signed myself out and went home thinking they were crazy the next day I went to see my neuro dr and he thought I should take a test to be safe . I took 8 of them the all were positive I did not tell my husband I called my grandma and layed on the floor crying .. My babies were going to be under a year old back to back plus I had 2 older ones too. But now having my daughter who is 10 months younger than my son I would never change a thing .. The only thing I would not do again is not call my husband at work to tell him that we need to talk .. Cause that put pure panic in him.. He thought I was going to leave him with 3 kids .. Boy he was so wrong ... So give your guy a chance he might surprise you..
07-25-2013 01:15 PM
07-25-2013 01:21 PM
Definitly unsettling to have an unexpected pregnancy...but exciting possibility for another sibling for your child! I had unexpected Irish twins a few years ago as well and they have such a strong bond-almost inseperable. They are 17 months apart.
Like others have said, confirm with your doctor, but you can do it!