04-10-2014 08:58 AM
I am actually on the same boat. I have twin girls and when one wakes up I run to run because I dont want the other to wake up. What can I do? Anyone has any good tips? My girls are 9 month olds and wake up at least once a night.
04-29-2014 11:30 AM
04-29-2014 12:10 PM
I'm sure some people may not like my response, but I'm not going to apoligize. I tried the cry-it-out method with my first child and she and I just could not handle it. It's wrong to let your child cry and cry. They need you for some reason or another - even just soothing to go to fall back asleep. Therefore, I'm a converted "cry-it-out mom" to a "parent day and night type of mom". If your child crys during the day for you and you respond to them, then why should it be any different at night? My 4 year old daughter still likes it when I'm by her when she falls asleep at night but now can get up in the middle of the night and fall back asleep by herself - she know's I'll be there if she needs me. I have a 5 month old that still sleeps in our room (in a co-sleeper next to our bed). He's a horrible sleeper and gets up every 2-3 hours a night. But, I've never let him cry - he starts tossing and turning and all I have to do is put my hand on his chest and he falls back asleep. He also knows that I'm there for him all the time. And, FYI - I'm a full-time mom and full-time employee (I work 45+ hours a week).
What's wrong with being a parent day and night and encouraging safety and security for your children? I definately don't see there being safety and security when you let a child cry it out in the middle of the night just so that you can get a little more sleep - deal with it, being a parent means being there for your children 24/7.
04-29-2014 01:09 PM
Letting a baby or child cry causes anxiety in them and makes them feel as if no one is there to comfort them. I do not let my toddler cry for more than 10 minutes. If I wait a few minutes, he will sometimes fall back asleep on his own. if he doesn't, he needs something. If that is reassurance, then so be it. We all need that.. child or adult. I do not understand why people try to treat children as different human beings than the rest of us in regard to their needs. Would you ignore and older child, spouse, friend, etc. who was crying?