Better Life

Tomorrow is Moving Day.  Goodbye Connecticut, hello Massachusetts.  Caroline and I are outta here.

First of all, I need to just get it off my chest that moving out of state with a three year old is most definitely not a one-person job.  I can confirm it.  I’m so deliriously tired that I probably will not even remember writing this post after tonight.  It’s been kind of a perfect storm of craziness around here these days.  I started my new job in private practice two weeks ago, I’ve been painting the new place and packing to move, Tyler hasn’t been around and won’t be again, Caroline is leaving her old preschool and I’m having a new nanny start, and I had to radically change Caroline’s diet.  She is kind of a mess, I’ll be honest with you.  She doesn’t do well with transitions.  And we’re dealing with a lot of them, all at once.

“Kind of a mess” in preschooler terms translates to constantly throwing tantrums, screaming NO regardless of what I’m saying, clinging to me with a death grip, and unpacking everything I try to pack.  Thank goodness for my parents.  They live an hour away, but they are there when I need them.  I literally could not have done this alone.

But now everything is packed, and the movers are coming tomorrow, and we are leaving this place for good.  This living room is soon to be empty again.  Even though Caroline’s lived her whole life here so far, I have to say I won’t miss it.

I’m ready for my fresh start.

I absolutely love my new job.  It couldn’t be a better fit for me, honestly.  Everyone there is so nice, the practice runs so smoothly, and I feel like I am doing good work for good people.  I’m only working three days a week, so I have a lot more time to spend with Caroline than I did during residency.  I got my first paycheck, so money is no longer a constant stress.  Our new house is bigger and brighter than our tiny dark apartment, and has a yard for Caroline to play in.

It was not easy for me to finish dental school in the middle of a divorce and with an unexpected baby and to go through a residency as a single mother.  But I did it, and I’m proud of it, and I feel like all of my hard work is finally paying off… for me, and for my daughter.

I’m pretty sure that once things settle down, there won’t be a whole lot more we could ask for.  So hold on, Caroline.  I haven’t quite got things put together yet… but we’re headed for a better life.

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  1. by Caroline

    On July 15, 2012 at 5:12 am

    This is the culmination of a lot of hard work – you should be so proud of your achievements. Caroline will settle soon I’m sure, kids are so resilient. I look forward to hearing about your new life, and hope the Julia like abrasive/hilarious take on the world will continue………:)

  2. by Marissa

    On July 15, 2012 at 8:57 am

    Good luck on your new journey!

  3. by Caitlyn

    On July 15, 2012 at 12:57 pm

    It is so good to see all of your trials and tribulations finally paying off. It is even better to see your patience with Caro when everything is changing so much for both of you- some people have a really hard time holding it together when they combine their own major stresses and a stressed out toddler and you seem to be handling it beautifully. Good luck in MA! I look forward to reading about your new life!

  4. by Gloria

    On July 15, 2012 at 7:33 pm

    So happy for you, Julia! Longtime reader here, and I’m so glad that you’re finally at your fresh start. Can’t wait to see what your next chapter brings!

  5. by Emily

    On July 15, 2012 at 11:10 pm

    Did you work out Tyler’s visitation?

  6. by Samantha

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    I just had to say that you are and have been an incredible inspiration to me. I am also a single mom to an unexpected baby who had to leave the toxic relationship with her father, and I am working to finish my Master’s degree. When you’re in the trenches it’s though to remember that there is a light at the end of the tunnel, and that you’re not just beating your head against the wall for nothing. Reading your blog has helped to remind me that this is possible, regardless of what others may think. Thank you for giving me someone to relate to, as well as renewed confidence that I am doing what is best for my daughter and myself. Good luck with this new start. You seem like an amazing woman and a wonderful mother, and you deserve nothing but the best.

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