Actual Messages from Online Dating

You guys, you truly are not going to believe the crazies I have found on the internet since I started this whole online dating adventure.  I thought I was crazy… but these guys take it to a whole nother level.  I submit here several messages for your consideration, copied and pasted verbatim for your enjoyment.

Let’s begin with my most… ah… mature suitor.  He is 49 years young and his screenname is “slosoftkissr” and no I am not even joking a little bit about that.  His profile consists of a long jumble of repetitive insanity that I honestly could not get through and this is the first message he contacted me with:

“have a 1200 sq. ft. gym in my home,perhaps I can entice you with one day,however,I liked your ad & I think, feel ,demonstrate & represent a much younger and energetic gentlman,generally I enjoy the company af a younger gal,as my stamina & endurance are a drive only the young can appreciate,I MEAN YOU LOOK SO GOOD IN YOUR PIC’S YOU MAKE ME WANT TO BUY YOU NEW CLOTHES FOR EVEN MORE GREAT LOOKS,I DO HAVE A VICTORIA SECRET CARD,esp.I LIKE YOUR THIRD PIC,IT’S MY SCREENSAVER,CALL ME,WHERE PERSONALITY,EMOTION AND CHARISMA,SHINE THROUGH.(he gives his name and phone number here).AS A FORMER TICKET AGENT WE’LL NEVER BE OUT OF IDEAS ON HOW TO HAVE FUN.”

Okay.  Dude? Number one: you’re f—ing crazy.  Number two: you’re old enough to be my dad (I’m 28).  Number three: you’re f—ing crazy!  I was actually contemplating meeting up with this guy just so I could share the undoubted hilarity that would follow with you guys, but then I got to the screensaver comment and now I just want to take 40 showers and delete any and all pictures myself that I have ever posted on the internet, anywhere.  I also probably need to start drinking heavily.

Needless to say, I did not reply to this creepster’s first message.  Not to be deterred, the very next day he sent me this:

“I FORSEE NO TIME WE’D BE OUT OF THINGS TO CHAT ABOUT,IT’S A MATURE TRAIT TO KNOW WHAT YOU WANT,AT LEAST YOU TALK ABOUT FAKE GUYS TOO MANY GALS TALK OF THEIR BAGGAGE,DISTRUSTING ANY MAN…………WELL NO I’D NEVER BE JEALOUS NOR ENVY,HOWEVER KNOW WHAT YOU MEAN,TO ME IT IS A GREAT INDICATOR HOW WELL YOU WILL TREAT THE MAN YOU DESIRE……… 1 THING ALL MY EXERCISE MACHINES ARE INSURED MY GIRLS HAVE BEEN GOING ON THEM SINCE 30 LBS.,I’VE GAINED SOME (REVERSIBLE) WEIGHT SINCE QUITTING SMOKING LAST YEAR,THE TRIUMPH IS GOING STRONG…LV UR #,OR BLOCK YOURS,I WON’T TAKE IT PERSONAL,HEALTHY CONFIDENCE RIGHT..(he gives his name and phone number here).”

Just… no.  Blocked this dude so fast, you guys.

Next up: a 43 year old “hobbyist” (?) who, um, certainly fulfills my requirement of liking kids.  In fact, he’s probably got that covered a little too well.  His first message:

“You are fine and your kid probably is too :)

You life is just starting and I want to be there with you having all that fun :)

I’m sorry.  Did you just hit on my three year old?  Blocked.  So fast.  Again.

So it seems the verdict is in: I attract the crazies online just like I do in real life.  I knew this online dating stuff was a bad idea.  But it’s like a trainwreck, you know?  It’s so terrible, yet you just can’t look away…

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  1. by Matt

    On June 5, 2012 at 9:40 am

    Julia, brilliant article! Thanks for sharing.
    x

  2. by Jessica

    On June 5, 2012 at 9:47 am

    Eww, eww, eww. I keep cringing at those emails. I hope you have better luck and no more crazies.

  3. by Heather

    On June 5, 2012 at 11:45 am

    My eyes almost popped out of my head when I read about the screen saver!!!!! Oh my. My mom met her husband online dating so there are some sane one’s out there.

  4. by Annie

    On June 5, 2012 at 1:21 pm

    Oh, I totally identify with you…been there, done that. No fun! But, I met my husband through an online crazy I dated, so you never know….

  5. by Mike

    On June 5, 2012 at 9:02 pm

    me like healthy confidence additional. we have fun dance with sexy disco. clothes look nice but better when new and triumphant. i would like feel and show heart of line with gold and diamond loves. yes.

  6. by Sara

    On June 6, 2012 at 8:07 am

    Ah how I feel your pain…while I do dabble in online dating, mine is of the lesbian dating variety but that does not stop the crazies. My friends and I have decided I am a glowing beacon of light that attracts the crazies like moths to a flame…its funny and sad all at the same time!

    In all seriousness, I have had plenty of friends who have met their loves online and are still with them today…no crazy has shown through yet. So there is hope out there for you. Good luck and I hope you at least make a good friend!!!