Bye Bye Binky
I have a confession to make.
My name is Julia, and my daughter will be three in February, and she still uses a pacifier. And I’m a dentist.
I always hated seeing other people’s toddlers walking around in public with plugs in their mouths. I’m not really sure how it happened that my daughter still has one. I wanted to have her off it by age 1, but she didn’t seem ready. Then her father and I split up when she was 18 months, and she was so attached to it that it didn’t feel right to take it away. Then it just continued like that, because she is constantly bounced between my place and my parents’ place (while I’m on call) and, lately, Tyler’s place. I couldn’t bring myself to take away her one constant source of comfort when her sense of security seemed to be so undermined by jumping around from home to home.
I had always figured that eventually I’d just take it from her, ready or not… but it turns out that I’m just not that mom. Whether this is a good thing or a bad thing, I don’t know. I really am not sure if I’m doing the right thing by being sensitive to her cues, or just being lazy and letting her keep it because it’s easier than trying to wean her off it.
You know? Whether it’s that you’re half an hour late for work and your toddler just will.not.cooperate, or that you haven’t slept in days and your toddler just will.not.sleep, sometimes it is a heck of a lot easier to reach for that little piece of plastic and rubber, especially when you are a single parent and have no help.
(Now she’s just making excuses, you think. Woman up and get the kid off that thing before she starts packing the Nuks in a suitcase for college.)
Well, if you’re thinking that, you’re right. I’m gonna do it! Bouncing between houses is always going to be a way of life for her, because her parents are divorced, and a pacifier isn’t going to change that. If she needs security she can sleep with her Pooh Bear that she brings everywhere. I think it’s time to boot the binky.
Only problem is… I have no idea how to do it in a loving but firm way. Hey, I’m not perfect. My kid still has a pacifier. I haven’t folded laundry in at least three weeks. I almost never change the oil in my car. Sometimes I even post annoying Facebook statuses. So I’m turning to you, internet, to please help me: tell me, how did you get your kid off their pacifier?