Tuesday, October 4th, 2011
Okay, you guys are killing me these days with the judgey comments.
I know, I know, I put myself out there and people can say whatever they want on the internet. I knew that when I signed up for this gig. I’d like to say I don’t care what anyone thinks about me, but it’d only be half true. It makes me sad and makes me question myself when strangers judge me like that.
But, I guess you can say what you want, because I’m not going to stop writing about my life, and I’m not going to make stuff up. I do reserve the right to stick up for myself, and to think that you have no balls, because let’s face it, I share my whole life and put all this stuff out there on the internet under my real, full name, and you leave anonymous snarky comments in the middle of the night under fake email addresses. HEYOHHH!
Anyway, here’s the part where I stick up for myself.
Q: Why are you so determined to date? You’ve been desperately looking for a guy since the minute you left your husband.
A: I’m not “determined to” date, nor am I desperate. I didn’t date for quite a long time after my separation and official divorce– in fact, I haven’t really “dated” anyone until HSD. I’ve been on dates more recently, sure, but it’s not like I’m out trolling for guys. If I happen to meet someone I find interesting and attractive, and they feel the same way, then sure, I go out with them to get to know them. But it’s not all the time and it’s not like I’m desperately on the prowl. I don’t feel like I need a man, because I enjoy being alone, but I like dating, too. It’s fun, and it helps me get to know myself better and figure out what I’m looking for in life, not just in a partner.
Q: Shouldn’t you be spending time with your daughter or on your career instead of dating?
A: Dating has never, and will never, take away from my time with my daughter. I go on dates after she is asleep (with a sitter in my apartment, of course), or when she is on visitation with her father, which is relatively often now that he is back from North Dakota. And I have never introduced her to anyone I’ve gone on dates with. Either way, though, I’m more than just a mom and a dentist. I’m entitled to companionship or even a relationship if I choose to have it.
Q: Don’t you think it’s better if you just stay single until your daughter turns 18 and moves out, and then look for a relationship?
A: Nope. That’s ridiculous, complete overkill, and frankly, none of your damn business. Next question.
Q: Are you just ripping on Reese Witherspoon because you’re trying to forget that two parents are better than one?
A: Make up your mind, people. First I’m not allowed to date, then I’m not allowed to be single. I can’t do both. And no, I’m ripping on her because I don’t like her implication that single parents are people to be pitied. We are doing just fine, thanks. And so are our children. Besides, that post was meant to be funny.
Q: Didn’t the Jamaican tourism board offer you a free trip to Jamaica so that you could write about family-friendly vacation activities for us readers?
A: Okay, okay, nobody asked that. But you should have. Because they totally did. That’s right! I’m leaving for Jamaica early tomorrow morning and I’m gonna do all kinds of kid- and family-friendly stuff and let you know how it went. I’ll be tweeting about it (@unexpectedjules) and I’ll write all about it next week when I get back.
Just please don’t leave me a ton of mean comments to come back to. ;)Add a Comment