Breaking News: Not Every Parent Is Married
Hey, everybody! I want to tell you something that is probably gonna blow your mind. Are you ready for this? You’re not even gonna believe it. It’s pretty revolutionary but I think you need to know that not everyone who has a baby is married.
I know, right? It is crazy stuff. An appallingly large percentage of people I meet appear to be ignorant of this simple fact, so I’m about to use their comments as teaching tools so that you can avoid offending every single parent you meet. Don’t be afraid. I’m here to help you. Let’s begin.
Person A: You have a baby? I didn’t know you were married.
Me: I’m not married.
Person A: Oh! Uh…
(LESSON: You wouldn’t ask a woman if she’s pregnant simply because she’s heavier. Don’t ask a woman if she’s married simply because she has a child.)
Person B: You have a baby? I guess your husband watches her while you’re on call?
Me: I don’t have a husband, but my mom watches her for me.
Person B: Oh! You’re not married? But you’re such a nice girl!
(LESSON: Nice people can be single parents. You don’t have to put us in your “mean people” file just because we’re raising a kid by ourselves.)
Person C: You have a baby? I thought you were single?
Me: I am single.
Person C: Oh, when you said you had a baby I assumed, you know, that you had a family.
(LESSON: Although I admit I’ve struggled with this definition myself, there are all kinds of families, and single mothers and their children do count as one of them.)
Seriously, though. These days, it’s pretty much a given that many families are not traditional and that many parents aren’t married. I’m not sure why so many people assume that I am married. Maybe I don’t fit their stereotype of who a single parent is… but then again, how many of us single parents do? I’m willing to bet that the answer is “not many”.
So, this concludes today’s lesson. Unless, of course, any other single parents wish to add to these teaching points in the comments!Add a Comment