Drama, Drama, Drama.

My fairy tales post spun off into quite a bit of Facebook drama yesterday, and it got me thinking about what I’m trying to do here with this blog.  (I had actually considered that to be one of my tamer posts!)

When I was first approached about moving this blog to Parents.com, I wasn’t entirely sure how I felt about it.  There is a lot of really personal stuff here.  I thought, what if people at school see it?  My family?  My friends who don’t already know about it?  My patients?

And what if people don’t like it?  I am pretty thin-skinned.  I wasn’t sure I could handle mean comments, and I knew I was going to get some because you can’t expect everyone to agree with everything you say, especially if you’re writing a blog about divorce and single parenthood that is this public.

But I got over it quickly and agreed to do it, and I do not and will never censor anything I write.  I am proud, honestly, to give a voice here to single and divorced parents, and I don’t expect that everyone (or even that most people) will agree with what I write and what I’ve done with my life.  But if I write bland, tame posts that are totally devoid of any speck of controversy, everyone would just shrug and think it was fine and go on their way and that would be it.  I’m not going to do that because it wouldn’t be me.  If you make something nobody hates, no one will love it.

I am not a writer.  When I sit down to write a post, I write it all in one go, because this is how I talk.  It isn’t a series of articles or essays or news stories.  It isn’t anyone’s opinion or experience but mine.  It’s me, talking to you, about my life and the crazy ride I have been on since I first found out I was pregnant with my daughter.  I am just holding on for dear life, and if even one post rings true for one person, then I’m happy.

If you’d ever like to see any single parenting or divorce issues discussed here, or if you have any questions about me and my life, I’d love to hear about it.  (My fellow Parents blogger Richard Rende actually just published a post about the effects divorce has on kids today!)  You can leave a comment or click “email us” on the right-hand side of this blog to contact me directly.  You can also follow me on Facebook or Twitter, if you are so inclined.  Since my divorce, I have gotten a lot of email from women going through similar issues and I am always happy to lend a listening ear and respond, because I know how much it sucks.  The one thing I prefer not to address with this blog or via email is dental issues or questions, because of liability issues and because as a resident I do not yet practice under my own license.

So, enjoy!  (Or don’t!)  And always feel free to let me know what you think.

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  1. by Dr. Leah at Singlemommyhood

    On June 8, 2011 at 7:51 am

    Just dropping by to say hello. We’re delighted to meet you and look forward to connecting.

  2. by Kristina

    On June 8, 2011 at 8:03 am

    I’ve been following your blog since the beginning. I’m not sure how I stumbled upon it, but I LOVE it. I feel like we are facing so many of the same things. I’m a single mom – that divorced my son’s father when he was only 1 year old. It was a VERY similar situation, there was now way we could possibly make each other happy, and for me to survive and THRIVE in life I needed to leave. I appreciate your honesty and your strength. I LOVED your recent post about “Damaged Goods” Please keep it up, I’m always reading!

  3. by Nick Shell

    On June 8, 2011 at 8:23 am

    Hi Julia, as your fellow Parents.com “blogging brother”, I want you to know I look forward to reading your new post every morning. I enjoy reading what you have to say :)

  4. by Jennifer

    On June 8, 2011 at 8:49 am

    It’s amazing how one or two anonymous comments can leave you in a funk for a day. After blogging for 3+ years, I’ve had to grow some pretty thick skin, and let it roll off my back.

  5. by Cubsie

    On June 8, 2011 at 9:41 am

    I’m still wondering when Disney movies became such a controversial topic. Whoa.

    I’m glad you aren’t letting the haters bring you down.

  6. by Berit Thorkelson

    On June 8, 2011 at 10:23 am

    Drama’s good! Get’s the conversation going. You’re a good writer.

  7. by Erinn

    On June 8, 2011 at 4:45 pm

    So, I can’t ask you how the &^$(% to get my three year old to sit still for two freakin minutes while I try to brush her teeth? ;-) (Yeah, if ANY parent out there figures THAT one out, please share!!!)

    I love your blog. Like: love love LOVE your blog. Don’t let a few bad apples spoil the whole barrel.

    And of course, remember to brush.

  8. by Amccul20

    On June 9, 2011 at 8:42 am

    I think you’re fantastic! and I love what you’re doing here. I’ve “known” you since before you even started your personal blog and while I don’t have kids and am married, I come from a divorced home and I really appreicate what you write and it maybe gives me a bit more sympathy for my mom because as much as I want to blame her for a bunch of the bs I experienced during childhood, your blog makes me realize, she’s human and she struggled with everything!!

  9. by Julia

    On June 9, 2011 at 6:56 pm

    Thanks, everybody :) I appreciate the support!

  10. by howard binkow

    On June 10, 2011 at 9:03 am

    We create picture books to help 4-8 yr olds learn important life lessons & feel good about themselves. Do u have any ideas 4 our next book?